Living with purpose – that is finding your passion – is pivotal for a positive body image.
I’ve talked before about the importance of creating a life mission statement.
In her book, Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance, Rosie Molinary writes, “Mission statements allow you to voice what you want for yourself, how you want to be in the world, what matters to you, and your dreams.”
When writing her own mission statement, Rosie used life coach Nicole Greer’s one-sentence formula. It includes:
- a core value (something that’s most important to you)
- what you innately do and describing it in three verbs
- and identifying “who you are most meant to serve in this world,” according to Greer.
Below, in the last part of our interview, Rosie talks about the importance of a positive body image to your life’s purpose and how we can empower each other. Plus, you’ll learn Rosie’s mission statement.
Q: One of the activities you recommend in your book is to write a mission statement. I love yours! It says: “Rosie Molinary specializes in encouraging individuals to explore, integrate, and solidify their voices in order to empower them with their own truth, confidence, hope, passion and action.” What’s one way we can empower ourselves?
A: I am often asked why I think body image even matters. And here’s the deal. If we are consumed by our bodies, then we are taking valuable time away from the work we are meant to be doing and the gifts we are meant to be giving to this world, from our mission. We each have a purpose that is uniquely ours.
If, however, we are in the mirror, assessing, obsessing, critiquing, despairing, we are not doing the work of our lives. What are you not doing while looking in the mirror, lamenting your fate? When we get sidetracked, we are taking away from the time we can invest in our purpose and passion.
So here is the one thing that we can do to empower ourselves and the world. Find your passion. Incorporate it into your life.
Fall so in love with your passion and purpose that the bump on your nose- that no one else can see- is put into perspective, and the gift you are meant to give to the world is at the forefront.
Live that way and you’ll never want to lose 30 minutes lamenting to the mirror again.
Q: Anything else you’d like readers to know about your book or body image in general?
A: When I talk with women, they are often holding on to something that was said to them years ago. What I want all of us to understand is that when someone criticizes our physicality, that comment is just a mirror into what is going on with them.
The person who criticizes your weight has a weight back story, your nose, a nose back story, and on and on. It is never about you.
I most want for women to release themselves from standards that weren’t of their own imagining and that keep them from being their best selves—and anything that keeps you from thinking positively about yourself and behaving respectfully towards yourself falls in that category.
I want us to take the time and make the effort to get to know ourselves and then to move forward from an authentic place.
We have to champion all women. As long as one woman is crippled by feelings of inadequacy, then the world that we have created is inadequate. Supporting one another and freeing one another from the limiting messages that we internalize can be revolutionary.
We make the choice whether to internalize these messages. We make the choice whether to build up or tear down. We can have power in our lives by not taking in negative messages, and we can empower other women by not sending out negative messages.
When we begin to see women in all of their dimensions, we begin to eradicate confining stereotypes and worldviews.
We start to see all women as complex individuals, and not just as part of a larger stereotypical whole.
We can choose to create a society that encourages women to be healthier and more whole, a society that unites us in our commonalities while acknowledging the depth of the individual. The more we challenge the limits we place on each other, the more open the world will be to all of us.
Thanks so much, Rosie, for your wise words and for working to spread an important and positive message!
What is your life statement? What is your passion? Why is a positive body image important to you?