4 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Mother and the Symbiotic Therapist

  • July 26, 2010 at 2:43 am

    Great article- transference is a tool not the enemy!

  • January 3, 2012 at 7:55 am

    This is my first read of your blog and I am impressed. A client sent me the link. I appreciate your thoughtful understanding and expression of the need for “repairmom” as my client calls me. I have been using this form of therapy for many years but find myself reluctant to share its power with other therapists. Too many times I’ve been told I’m not being “objective” enough, or that I’m creating a dependency. I believe there is a dependency in the person waiting to throw itself onto the nearest human life raft. Far too often that raft is abusive, addicted, narcissistic or cruel, adding further to the client’s pain. Making a healthy, symbiotic person available to clients, I have seen again and again the healing power that a safe dependent relationship brings, and I have yet to see someone remain stuck in that dependency. Thanks for you good words. Ellen

  • January 27, 2012 at 10:48 am

    I am currently in therapy. I “stumbled” upon your
    blog and am grateful that I did. Your insight,
    intelligence and humor have profoundly helped me
    to really understand my deep transference issues
    with my therapist. I have been struggling to
    reconcile my feelings for her. While reading your
    ALL of your blogs I was able to laugh at myself
    and finally realize what I really want and need
    from her. Thank you and I look forward to reading
    more of your articles. Tina

  • June 29, 2012 at 4:25 pm

    This is the crux of a successful therapy. Being a parent is not easy. The process of attachment is sensitive and demanding for any mother. None of us grow up without some issues.
    But if we are honest with ourselves for entering therapy then we are aware that we have pain. When we honor this pain and seek help we may find a bigger gift than ever imagined! I know I did.
    At times my ego resists and I say something like but I am an adult, grown up, and I am not suppose to be feeling this and needing that. But guess what- I do. I have allowed myself to be reparented twice now in my life. I have come to the place where I can honor my own very deep wounding. No I do not want anyone else to have to experience this but some do.
    I honor the process of therapy and the courage of these men and women to sit with us in our pain. To be able to manage our ego’s, yet love us and teach us at the same time. Such an honorable process.
    Thank you Sonia for once again addressing the very core of many therapies.
    May we all know love and let go of our fears!


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