One thought on “The Thinking Client's Therapist

  • June 26, 2009 at 1:12 am

    ‘The best part about therapy is that even after thirteen years, unlike your marriage, your relationship with your therapist will still be in the honeymoon stage.’

    I am not sure I agree with this, not only in terms of my own experience, but even more so, from discussions and observation of my friends, and sister, and their therapists.

    With my sister, and I see this happening with more people than just with her, therapy seems to pretty much always have a bad ending, or more specifically, the therapist ends up firing the patient.

    In the beginning, it’s so wonderful, and from what I now believe, not at all in the best interest of the patient. yes, the therapist loves you, and understands you, and listens, and feels sorry for you, and all these wonderful things.

    The patient I am thinking about, and who is a certain type of patient, feels ambivalent about all this attention and love she is getting. She wants it so badly but she also cannot ‘take it’.


    And in the end, the therapist can no longer stand it, and she explodes, and the blame just floods out. A true tragedy, I think, and not all that rare but more so, rarely talked about.

    I have come to conclude that ‘good intentions’ are often just as destructive in their outcome as ‘bad intentions.’

    I will stop her and see if I get a response. My comment is not in reaction to what has been said, but a serious ‘processing’ of what has been said. Thanks. Kat


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