Keys to creativity: Solitude.

The concept of solitude is getting a bad name lately, in the era of social everything. We’re both connected and disconnected at the same time and creativity cannot survive or emerge in environments that do not encourage it. Solitude has come to represent something negative and anti-social, when in fact it is a very effective tool in achieving creativity, reaching that place within that needs to be explored and expressed.


How to overcome feelings of guilt

I have an issue with how we use the word “should”. I’ve been battling with its' influence for over 10 years consciously, and have struggled with it for most of my life. Maybe you too have been in the same boat, if not consciously then unconsciously. In the moments I was feeling frustrated I would say that “should’s” ruin lives. Maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration although in reality, “should” and “should not’s” truly impact our lives to the core.


How fear destroys creativity and what to do about it.

We are all born creative, to various degrees. The innovations and inventions past and present have been brought to life by people like you and me. Well, maybe not entirely like us, because our unique environment and experiences always set us apart and change our perception of the world.

So why is it that even though we are born creative and are able of creative endeavors, we can still make ourselves believe that “I’m not the creative type”? What happened to the child that used to dream and fashion tools for his discovery?



Ruminating with purpose

There are hundreds of articles and books that guide you to stop looking back at your past in order to move forward. I’m sure you’ve heard of or encountered at some point in your life someone to tell you that you need to get over your past or certain aspects of it. What does that even mean?


A beautiful thing called Choice

“I can always choose, but I ought to know that if I do not choose, I am still choosing” (J.P. Sartre). There have been times in your life when you felt like there are no choices to be made or maybe you figured that because you cannot see additional possibilities, then there are none. You rationalize that when it comes to things that are external to you, you have no choice in the matter. If you can think of the situations that shaped your current views on choice, you might realize that most if not all have something in common: you either felt overwhelmed or underwhelmed by the choices available. In such instances, our thinking is no longer abstract and filled with possibilities; rather it becomes split in a black and white type of mentality. Why is that?


The fear of losing your darkness

There is something mysterious and attractive about darkness; we are drawn by the darkness in ourselves and others. In the context of this article, I use “darkness” to describe depression and emotional issues rather than various personality types such as narcissism or sociopathic tendencies.

Creative people oftentimes get attached to their darkness, especially if they use it to draw inspiration for their work. No, I’m not suggesting that people are going out of their way to feel depressed. If you’ve struggled with depression for a long time, there is something familiar and comforting in it in a way that is not even conscious.


The perils of perfection Part III


The general perception of perfectionism is that it is something beyond our power to overcome or deal with. That it is something external, like fate, over which we have no control. This is simply not true. It might take a while to change things, but know that being a perfectionist is not written in stone and there are things you can do about it, if you so choose.

Different people cope in different ways with perfectionism....


The perils of perfection. Part II

There is a paradox in the idea of perfection: on one hand you think you have very high standards and on the other the pressure of perfectionism keeps you from actually achieving your goals. Perfectionism can keep you from trying things out of fear that you won’t be able to create something worthwhile. We feel stressed, frustrated and convince ourselves to entirely give up because if it’s not perfect, then what is the point?


The perils of perfection – Part I

"Have no fear of perfection. You'll never reach it" (S. Dali). We want to be the perfect artist, parent, manager, student, etc. We want perfect lives, perfect jobs, perfect parents and perfect selves. We learn from an early age that 4.0 is the goal and that we “shouldn’t” want anything less (whether we're capable of it or not). This lesson teaches us that not attaining perfection makes us less than, unworthy. We learn that failure is humiliating and shameful and rather than trying and failing, it’s best to give up all together. It’s called perfectionism and it’s a very common issue.