Finding Your Internal Compass
Some months ago I went on a much-needed vacation, seeking to disconnect from my reality and hoping to gain some perspective. I tend to get so carried away by the day-to-day that every so often I lose myself and have to work on finding myself all over again.
I’ve realized that today’s world moves so fast that in an effort to keep up we tend to hop on (what seems to feel like) an endless treadmill with no sense of purpose or direction. We mindlessly run and run, trying to go faster and faster, as if by going “the distance” we’ll finally get somewhere.
Do we even know where it is that we’re going? And if so, what makes us think that we’ll find a way of being happy there if we haven’t learned to be happy where we are now?
I’d been down this road before and knew better than to keep chasing my tail. I decided to put a stop to this exhausting “run” I had been on for months. I hopped off the treadmill and just like that, gained back my vision. With enough determination I regained clarity. I snapped out of the haze I was in to snap back into my true self.
I remembered what I genuinely care about and realized how much of what I’d been working towards had absolutely nothing to do with it. I had been fighting so hard to accomplish things I didn’t even care about (only my ego did). By doing so I was hurting the parts of my life that truly matter to me.
So, in trying to find my way again (and hopefully not get lost as often) I decided to come up with some sort of compass to guide me moving forward. A reminder of my purpose and what it is that I came to this world to do. Some basic mantras to keep me centered and rooted. And a list of “healers” to apply in my daily life as needed.
Let me share with you this navigation tool of mine, hoping some aspects of it may resonate with you or even inspire you to come up with your own.
Our internal compass should be driven by our purpose in life. What did you come to this world to accomplish? What higher goal are you trying to serve through your actions? What is the aim of your whole existence?
This does not need to be a heroic mission. It might be as simple as leaving a footprint on the lives of those we love. What matters is that we have clarity on what our ultimate goal in life is. And that we tune into it every once in a while, especially when the noise around us drowns our inner voice.
I want to help others develop into the best version of themselves by developing into my own. This is what guides my every action. If I’m learning, inspiring, experiencing, and connecting with others, I know I’m on the right path.
Mantras are affirming thoughts and beliefs that provide the reassurance we need to find peace within ourselves. They help us live our lives more consciously and in a more positive state of mind. Mantras are especially helpful to challenge those unconscious (and dangerous!) self-defeating beliefs that many times take the reins of our thoughts and actions.
Three basic mantras serve as my primary guide:
- I have enough. I AM ENOUGH.
Most of our ailments are a result of a feeling of insufficiency. The reason why we participate in the “rat race” to begin with is because we think what we have is not enough. We’re fooled by society into thinking everyone has so much more than we have.
We already have everything we need. And we are already enough just as we are. Anything else we’re searching for is nothing but a plus. Fulfillment we pursue to add more meaning to our existence. Not to make it whole.
- I am worthy of (giving and receiving) UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
Much of our “busyiness” comes from a need to prove our worth. Many of us fall prey to the belief that accomplishing this or that will make us worthy of the love and acceptance we desperately crave.
Yet, unconditional love is a birthright. Our mere existence is proof of it. Just look up and see for yourself. What else, if not love, could have possibly given place to this marvelous world surrounding us?
- I TRUST the Universe and everyone I share it with.
Remember, we are co-creators of our destiny. That means we only have control over half of it. The other half? It is, for better or for worse, up to the Universe.
By accepting this, we find the peace we need to let go, especially when we feel we need to grab on even tighter. We summon the courage to release our fears and doubts by trusting the Universe and fully surrendering to its wisdom.
We may lose touch with our true inner-being from time to time. Our ego and insecurities are experts at highjacking our journey, so don’t be surprised if they show up uninvited. You’ll know when this happens because you’ll feel far from connected with yourself and others. This is when you must put your healers into practice.
Healers are meant to repair your soul. To give it the true fulfillment it’s looking for so you can bounce back and reconnect with the truest and deepest part of yourself. I find that my soul is instantly healed through love, nature, talking, writing, reading, dancing, and breathing. What heals your soul?
Rather than embarking on the road most traveled, we must pave our own way. And as we do, we must leverage the most important tool we possess: our inner voice. Not the voice of our ego, our impulsive emotions, or pervasive thoughts. But the voice of our soul and spirit. This is the internal compass that will always guide us the right way. Our way.
Beltran, J. (2018). Finding Your Internal Compass. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 25, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/thrive/2018/04/finding-your-internal-compass/