2 thoughts on “Feeling Orphaned: What To Do When Parents Don’t Meet Your Emotional Needs

  • June 17, 2018 at 10:36 pm

    With many families I’ve worked with, parents are often caught up in their own problems; whether it be personal, or within their marriage. Children often become easy targets for parental frustrations, anger and hostility. Children are vulnerable, and the effect of this anger and frustration on the child’s self esteem, self confidence and self view can be dramatic. Children may blame themselves for situations that are completely out of their control; leaving them, as Dr. Maidenberg points out, as “not good enough”.

    As a child therapists, we function as advocates for our patient’s well being. While we may encourage older adolescents to speak up for themselves in light of a parent’s debilitating comments, younger children have no such tools at their disposal. It is our job to recognize the harm we are witnessing and speak up for our younger patients.

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  • December 1, 2018 at 6:25 pm

    This article is absolutely correct,i finally see someone has answer for my situation,its been a while i have been treated like a 14 year old kid,iam in college now,they dont value what i want to be.my parents are both type -helicopter parent and drill sergeant parent,everytime if i fail to get higher marrks like A+ or to do work that even i dont how to do, my parents especially my father has an habit of mocking me in entire public and relatives,its is hobby,blaming all people he always try to his side clean and clear,once he forgot some thing about take recipts or something he remembered when we visited a relative and began to leave,he started blaming and humiliating infront all relative that iam the cause of it,he said iam the worst fool, I don’t know why he did it,after that when we get into the car my brother said to him,you never said to him that,then father was like “okay”.this wasn’t the first time,it happened many time,many time,i always wished to ran way from home,they will be always peeking out when iam studying, chatting..or anything like that,i feel iam always being watched,i felt really terrible.he thinks he is always right,iam always afraid when he approaches to women,i feel so akward to his behavior,i had seen many times akward images of women in his phone ,he never understand anyone’s emotion, i never called him dad with my heart.i can’t trust my entire family they all have same character to him.he speaks abusively when he is angry

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