There are constant reminders about how fragile and unpredictable life can be. We see examples of it every day. Although we have limited control over the curve balls that gets thrown our way, we do have control over ensuring that we’re living our best life no matter what.
The overarching question is if we died tomorrow, would we die with reassurance that we lived our best life, treated ourselves and others with kindness and respect, and lived according to our core values on a daily basis?
This should be a question that’s considered and assessed daily. Below are 52 questions for every week of the year to ponder and work toward enriching your life. Consider identifying a day of the week to dedicate toward journaling your responses. Don’t just respond but also think about the immediate action you will take toward enhancing your life.
Questions To Ask Yourself For Every Week Of The Year:
- What is standing between you and your biggest goal?
- What do you get distracted by that keeps you from effectively engaging and connecting with others?
- What or who could you pay more attention to in life?
- What thoughts or ideas do you attach to (your rules, script about people and things) that keep you from growing and making further progress?
- How often do you make excuses about things? About what in particular?
- Where do you want to be in five years from now? What may get in the way? What are you willing to do about it?
- What is one change you need to make in your life this year?
- What meaningful thing(s) did you learn about yourself this year?
- What was the best day of your life? Why? How can you replicate those meaningful moment(s)?
- If your life was a movie, what would the title be? What would you want it to be?
- What life lessons do you wish you knew 10 years ago? What got you to the place of learning those life lessons?
- What is the biggest dream in life? Did you achieve it? Hope to achieve it? What will help get you there?
- What is your biggest fear? Why? Are your actions guided by this fear? Does it get in the way of doing what I want to be doing? In what way?
- What are some personal characteristics or qualities that you’re not proud or fond of? What helped to create them (e.g., family genetics, family role modeling, experience, etc.)? What are those you need to accept and what are those you could work to change? Are you engaging in this process?
- Do you think that you’re enough and are worthy of love and affection? If not, what gets in the way of this?
- Do you quickly get defensive and have a hard time facing yourself or confronting your mistakes or imperfections? About what? Why do you think so? What is its impact?
- Do you quickly get defended or cut off to avoid uncomfortable/negative thoughts or emotions? Which emotions? Why do you think you do this? What is its impact?
- If you had one year to live, what would you try to achieve?
- If you have one month left to live, what would you try to achieve?
- What would you say about you at your funeral? What would others say about you? What would you want to be said?
- What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your best self?
- Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams? What’s getting in the way? What can you do to change it?
- What advice would you give to yourself 3 years ago?
- Is there anything you are avoiding/running away from? Why?
- Are you settling for less than what you are worth? In what arena of your life? Why?
- What bad habits do you want to break? What’s keeping you from breaking them? How will you go about working on them?
- What good habits do you want to cultivate?
- How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
- What qualities do you want to embody?
- Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world? Why are they most important?
- When was the last time you told yourself that you love and appreciate yourself? Do you feel comfortable doing so? Why?
- Do you treat yourself with the love and respect you truly deserve? What gets in the way?
- What is one thing you could start doing today to improve the quality of your life?
- Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? What?
- Is there someone who has hurt, angered, or rejected you that you need and want to forgive?
- What parts of your life doesn’t reflect who you are? How can you improve that?
- Do you find yourself feeling lonely at times? What’s making you feel this way?
- Where are you not being honest with yourself and why?
- Are you comfortable with being uncomfortable? How does this impact you?
- Do you enjoy your own company? If not, Why?
- What do you want to be remembered for?
- What are you most thankful for?
- When did you last push the boundaries of your comfort zone? Do you avoid doing this? When? Why?
- Who has had the greatest impact on your life? Why? In what way?
- Who do you want to get closer to? How will you pursue this relationship?
- What can you improve about the way you communicate to others? How would you go about doing this?
- What emotion do you often tap into and is most familiar to you (e.g., worry, anger, frustration, etc.)? If you were to look more in depth and beneath that feeling, what might you find (e.g., sadness, disappointment, etc.)? Are you willing to go there? Why or why not?
- What was the most challenging circumstance that you had to experience, that profoundly impacted and changed your life? In what way did it affect you? What did you learn from it?
- What is the one rule that you hope or wished for that everyone lived by in order to live a more meaningful life? What are you doing to change or reconstruct this rule in your life or in society in general?
- What regret do you have that you wish you can change? Have you learned from it going forward? What have you learned?
- Are there times like you feel like giving up? What leads you to that state? What helps you out of your rut?
- What’s your strengths and best qualities? What contributed to the formation of it? How could you continue fostering them?
It’s challenging to fully face all facets of ourselves. There are parts that we are proud of, revel about, and want more of. There are also other parts we try to avoid, are shameful of, or want to rid ourselves of.
We must embrace all parts of ourselves because as much as we would like to, we can’t split off the less desirable parts. All parts become negatively impacted when we try to do this.
All of you is wonderful, worthy, and enough. Strive toward your self-compassion and personal growth by really looking at yourself, internally and externally, facing all parts of yourself.
Have compassion for the parts that have a limited ability to change. For the other parts, make the necessary changes that you can in order to live a more mindful and meaningful life. We only have one life to live, if you live it meaningfully, one life is enough.