3 thoughts on “Do We Attract Conflict & Intolerance?

  • January 30, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    Very true. But on the other hand, some people have settled into living their life with a certain amount of conflict they are comfortable with. Not everybody has the same level of dislike for conflict. So it may not be lack of awareness of the mirror effect – it may be somebody settling in their comfort zone.

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  • January 31, 2019 at 6:39 pm

    I know a woman who always complains about this a**hole she encountered and that a**hole she encountered. I finally asked her, why is it that you encounter all these a**holes and I never do?
    She had no idea what I meant. I explained to her that she was often needlessly provocative and argumentative. But she just couldn’t see it. She just thought she was right and others were wrong, so got caught up in a lot of conflict. I find it sad. While it’s true that this may be her “comfort zone” it makes her unhappy and angry most of the time. And deprives her of friends. I know, I just can’t deal with her anymore.

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  • February 7, 2019 at 3:13 pm

    This article so brought light to my eyes! Marriage is two working as one. Yet I feel as though, and others also notice, I am not even equal to the dog in my spouses eyes. I worked for a long time to get beyond but I am always in the wrong. I quit making any for of discussion and hoped things would level out. That has not happened and slowly I realize things are worsening. Even our grandaughter is starting to treat me this way. Despite my corrections she still sees my wife doing it and persists. The blinders are being pulled away slowly and I can easily see the reflected anger and conflict I’ve endured. Thank you for the “Light”.

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