Concern, even a bit of worry in specific circumstances are normal. But parental obsessing, defined in this case as pressurized worry and constant focus on a child’s present and future, can have a less-than-positive impact on both parents and children and their emotional and physical well-being.
In her article, The Merry Go Round of Obsessions, pediatric behavioral occupational therapist Miriam Manela offers 10 ways to stop obsessing:
Many of us tend to obsess about many things in our lives. As parents we can easily obsess about our children. Especially, if there is an area that we want to “fix” in our child.
Obsessing is a merry go round that’s hard to get off of. It leaves us feeling doubting, anxious, fearful, or sad. Suppressing negative thoughts will not allow you to get rid of them and they will continue to return.
You may have a vision that no one else sees or understands, or are starting on a road with your child that you are unsure of, or come to realize that you made a mistake in your child rearing.