Whether you are dealing with a mental illness or personality disorder or not, if you still struggle with painful personality traits, feelings, and behaviors, one suggestion is to take a look at your core beliefs.
The following questions can prompt deep thought. Try focusing on one of the following questions a week, reflecting on it daily. You can use your weekly questions as a springboard for journaling, meditative thought, or prayerful meditation.
1. What do I believe about other people, those in my life and those who are strangers?
2. What do I believe about life in general?
3. What do I believe about myself?
If possible, list at least 3 answers per question. There is no limit to the total number of answers you can list, but try and focus on what you feel are defining or important beliefs to start.
By reflecting on and even changing some core beliefs, you may gain new insights that can help inform you as you work to changing disruptive or undesirable personality traits, behaviors, and feelings.
In a previous post, we listed thirty traits, behaviors, and emotions, that are each associated with Borderline Personality Disorder, either by standard diagnostic tools or patient self-reporting.
As mentioned, many items on the list are also associated with other personality disorders and mental illnesses. Of course, just because an individual might identify as having some of these traits does not mean that they have a mental illness or personality disorder.
We all have undesirable personality traits and hopefully, throughout our lives, as we grow and change, we become aware of them.
People are complex and the mental health professions aren’t infallible. Still, if any of personality traits have a negative impact on your life or are causing uncomfortable, painful, and lonely feelings, it might help to speak to someone.
If one or two of these traits persist over time, appear with frequency, and cause disruptions to your life, you might want to speak to a close friend or family member, someone you trust, who can offer sound advice.
If the problem persists, you might want to speak to a therapist. But, help doesn’t have to come in the form of therapy and a clinical diagnosis isn’t always necessary (though it can help you access an effective treatment path.)
It’s also vital that you believe you can change. See our next post, this Thursday, February 26.