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Use These 5 Wise Teachings & Improve ALL Your Relationships

1979947_843426895674130_780236672_oThese simple, yet profound quotes are a tiny sample of the teachings of Hasidic mystic Rebbe Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810), who is sometimes referred to as the “Doctor of the Soul”.

By learning and living his advice, you’ll find you are able improve relationships with your partner, family members, colleagues, and even yourself.

1. Occupy yourself with doing good, and the bad will automatically fall away.

(Helping family and friends, doing volunteer work, being responsible, and so on.)

2. Be like God. Don’t look for people’s shortcomings and weak points. Then, you’ll be at peace with everyone.

(Train yourself to be merciful with others, don’t judge them harshly, overlook their faults, and seek out their good points. Focus on the good.)

3. It’s easy to criticize others and make them feel unwanted. Anyone can do it. However, what requires effort and skill is picking them up and making them feel good.

(Stop the criticizing. View it as a habit, like smoking, that’s harmful, but can be broken! Find something good about another and show them how to focus on good things about themselves, as well as the good things in their lives.)

4. Always look for the good points insider yourself. Focus on these good points and turn depression into joy.

(Now you’re able to find the good in others. Give yourself the same courtesy. No matter what rut you are in, list your good points, such as the good and kind deeds you do, and focus on them.)

5. When you feel yourself getting angry, stop. Imagine yourself as if you’ve already exploded in anger and feel totally wasted. That’s really what happens when you get angry—your soul actually leaves you! If you remember to stop and imagine this, your anger will be sure to dissolve.

(Anger is an emotion we can ill afford. Yes, for most of us, it is not healthy to repress anger born of pain and suffering, it needs to be talked about and worked through, but once we process the anger, we do well to let it go, for our own psycho-spiritual health.)

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Use These 5 Wise Teachings & Improve ALL Your Relationships

Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC is the author of Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better, and Move On Without Wasting Time or Money and is licensed in addiction and psychotherapy with over 25 years experience as well as a consultant to organizations and companies in the fields of mental health and addiction. He is the executive director of an outpatient behavioral health program. Learn more about Richard here.

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& C.R. Zwolinski, R. (2014). Use These 5 Wise Teachings & Improve ALL Your Relationships. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 30, 2020, from


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