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Healing Your Thoughts: Despair Vs. Repair

If you believe you can damage, believe you can repair. —Rebbe Nachman of Breslov

There is no such thing as despair. —Rebbe Nachman of Breslov

There is no such thing as despair? Sounds like a koan, but it’s not. Rebbe Nachman was saying (in part) that despair is manufactured by the negative inclinations of those who believe they have no choice but to give up on themselves, or the world.

They feel so down on themselves, so down on the world, that they are convinced that hope is the illusion, despair the reality.

We are not the sum of our mistakes, though sometimes it feels that way. It is very easy for us to give into negative feelings about our actions in the face of challenges or suffering; about our feelings; and about how we see (or don’t see) our future.

Negativity feeds itself, and despair is negativity squared.

For many of us, thoughts and feelings feed each other until we can no longer tell which leads to another. Also, the lines between self and feelings and thoughts becomes blurred. Are we our thoughts and feelings or is there a deeper self? Who is the self that observes the thinker and the feeler?

We’d say, the soul.

To combat despair, believe that you can heal what you’ve harmed, or heal what has been harmed by other people or situations. Healing begins with your belief and continues with your thoughts.

One of the things that [correction: Prayerful Meditation and] therapy can do is help you examine and refine beliefs that do not serve you – the you that is able to look forward and grow.

(The first Healing Your Thoughts posts are Imagination and Belief and Being and Flowing.)

 

 

Healing Your Thoughts: Despair Vs. Repair

Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC is the author of Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better, and Move On Without Wasting Time or Money and is licensed in addiction and psychotherapy with over 25 years experience as well as a consultant to organizations and companies in the fields of mental health and addiction. He is the executive director of an outpatient behavioral health program. Learn more about Richard here.


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& C.R. Zwolinski, R. (2012). Healing Your Thoughts: Despair Vs. Repair. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 22, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2012/07/healing-your-thoughts-despair-vs-repair/

 

Last updated: 12 Jul 2012
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 12 Jul 2012
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