Archives for July, 2011

Communication

Mental Health and Social Media

Social Media is ubiquitous—there seem to be as many ways to use it as there are people using it. Underlying its success is the drive we have to connect with other people and have them connect with us. People like us, people different from us, people we already know, and people we have yet to meet.

It seems astonishing that in just a few short years entire communities have been created online, such as PsychCentral’s
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Depression

Leiby Kletzky’s Murder: We Cannot Understand, We Can Act


We live literally a few blocks from where the kidnapping and heartless murder of Leiby Kletzky took place. I have to admit that like everyone else, I felt shell shocked at the nature of this crime. Over the years, in both psychotherapy and addiction treatment, I've worked with victims of violent crime (and their families) and also with perpetrators of violent crime. Although I've avoided becoming jaded,...
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Communication

Is It Possible To Love An Abusive Mother? Film As Therapy, Part II

We're back with Gayle Kirschenbaum, award-winning television producer and documentary filmmaker who's talking with Therapy Soup about her relationship with her mother and her upcoming film, My Nose: The Bigger Version.

Gayle, when you say in the film your mom told you no one would marry you because of your nose, it brought back things my mother said when I was a girl—full-force. My mother, too, was glamorous and beautiful and I was in...
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General

My Mother Hates My Nose: Film As Therapy Part I

In American literature, film, and television, the relationship between mothers and daughters is often characterized as fraught with angst and conflict. Despite the strength of the mother-daughter bond, anything and everything from mother-daughter rivalry to outrageous and even physical fights has seen the film-studio light.

Gayle Kirschenbaum, Emmy-award winning director of numerous television shows and an award-winning documentary about her dog, has gone a step further. She’s directed a short comedic award-winning film called “My...
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Depression

Is Medication Always The Answer To Mental Illness?

A recent NY Times article, In Defense of Antidepressants, is one of several passionate articles about psychiatric medications, for and against. I stand firmly in the middle.

Not the wishy-washy swampy middle, but the place where scientific evidence, common sense, and holistic viewpoints all merge.

Correctly prescribed and correctly used psychiatric medications do help people. They can literally save lives. So, in what kinds of cases of mental illness (depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, schizophrenia, etc.) might...
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Communication

Don’t Tell Someone With PTSD To “Get Over It”

Neuroscientistific research shows that our memory is strongest and lasts the longest when our emotions are heightened. This helps explain why we might remember every nuance of our wedding day or our valedictory speech in college.

It also holds true for our memories of traumatic events such as abuse or even one-time events such as severe accidents.

Trauma and abuse seem etched in people's memories, while "important" information, such as remembering the Capitols of the...
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General

Three Ways To (Begin To) Repair The Hurt And Pain

It's easy to count the ways in which others have harmed us emotionally. It's not always so easy to count the ways in which we've harmed others emotionally.

Whatever "side" you're on, remember that  although forgiveness is often touted as the best way to move on, it's easier for the injured party to get beyond pain when real effort takes place.

Verbal apologies, no matter how heartfelt, may just not be enough. Often, action is needed.

In the...
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Communication

God In Therapy: Big, Bad Mouth

If you're new to the God in Therapy posts, we'll reintroduce the theme, briefly. In the God in Therapy posts we discuss (and sometimes even attempt to answer), the following questions:

Do discussions of spiritual/religious beliefs belong in the psychotherapy session? How do different therapists view the subject of God in psychotherapy? What are the "rules" and parameters? Is the traditional monotheistic God of the Bible relevant to the psychotherapy and addiction treatment processes?...
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