Do We Love Backwards?
There are two basic views of what love is:
1. Love is a feeling.
2. Love is something you do.
If you want to “fall” in love, feel “lovesick,” feel “crazy” with love, than be prepared for the possibility that this kind of “love” might not last.
If you want to commit to another, give to another, and take care of another, without focusing intensely on what you’ll get in return, your chances of love lasting will be far higher.
In Western culture, love precedes relationship/marriage. In other cultures, marriage precedes love. If two like minds share similar values, beliefs, and goals, it is easier for love to grow.
For many, the slower love grows the longer it burns.
& C.R. Zwolinski, R. (2011). Do We Love Backwards?. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 16, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2011/02/do-we-love-backwards/