5 thoughts on “Where Do You Keep Your Un-Cried Tears? Learning To Live With Grief

  • December 19, 2011 at 12:45 am

    my tears always sit behind my eyes and in my eyelids so my eyes feel heavy

  • December 20, 2011 at 3:25 am

    Just like Rachel I seem to hold them behind my eyes making them heavy, or in my heart making that heavier, or throughout my body making it part of my depression

  • December 20, 2011 at 5:57 pm

    For over 24 years I’ve kept them in my heart. I fear letting them go for fear of not being able to control them and I would be sent away to a nut house. People need to know that if they are going to break off a relationship. Be women or man enough to say why instead of not call or sending letters back. I think people can handle the truth more than that other junk. I’ve been feeling them closer to my eyes because of my therapist and i personally would prefer to share them in session with her. Since she has been on this journey with me.
    Because of that other person I wouldn’t let myself get close to another person. Because the pain was too much to go there again.
    I kept my therapist at arms length for years, until some years ago I saw how nuturing and gentle and caring she was. And as far as i have seen tells me the truth about everything. I love her in a special way!! How can you not for all that we’ve been through.I was always waiting for her to tell me get out of her office because of what I was feeling inside. And I was so afraid of what I was feeling. She helped me get through that arkward time. Because we always had boundaries. I’m glad she is who she is. Or i know i wouldn’t be here today!!

  • December 21, 2011 at 9:25 am

    Like Rhiannon, I also feel it in my heart or throughout my body at times, also making it part of my own depression. Usually if I’m close to actually crying, I’ll feel it more in my throat and below/behind my eyes.

  • December 21, 2011 at 3:22 pm

    i don’t where my grief has been hidden . i know i long ago as as young child of 5 years old i built a walled in place in one of the many dark places in side of me a infinite area to put away things . i have and always have built these places . many Doctors have tried to get to them and never have , even through drugs used to hypnotize me ; i was other unable to be hypnotized ; was less than useless .
    as a young child i was … i have no words to express this even today . but i was vastly different ; my paternal grand dad (most native american Indian , Mohawk)was like me in this way and he’s one of a handful of persons that got this ; and i caused and ti this day continues problems with others . this is the LONE WOLF thing , and it is more than a label often used . it is not some thing a person chooses to be . it’s a thing you are , your born this , same as being born a boy , girl , hermaphrodite .


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