6 thoughts on “How To Stop Arguing With Yourself And Make A Decision

  • November 26, 2011 at 7:59 am

    This seems like a fantastic concept, may try it in group setting soon.

    • November 27, 2011 at 5:39 am

      Glad you got something from it, Dyana – good luck with trying it out

  • November 27, 2011 at 4:16 am

    Could be a good way of thinking as I enter the start of a team planning day. Lots of challenges to be addressed. Need to definitely put the yellow hat on first. I also like the recognition that it’s OK to just sit with the red hat on. I’m often challenged by not having a strong opinion, yet I could benefit by noting the feeling.

    • November 27, 2011 at 5:47 am

      All the best with the planning meeting, Kim – may the hats serve you well!
      And I agree, it’s pretty liberating just to acknowledge whatever feelings might be there and simply allow them to be…

      De Bono also noted that it can sometimes be worth trying on the red hat a couple of times and seeing if those feelings shift as the process unfolds. See what you think…

  • November 30, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    Hats seem OK; DBT (Marsha Linahan)[type either into search on psych central, you will find it] has a pros/cons worksheet to help sort through the arguments- when practiced enough it is a VERY EASY way to stop the arguments while accepting/acknowledging the emotions and feelings.


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