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How To Stop Arguing With Yourself And Make A Decision



Have you ever tried to make up your mind about something and then found yourself lost in a never-ending argument of pros and cons? Looking for "the right" answer… Where you catch yourself thinking: "On this hand…" and "On the other hand…" until it's all completely out of hand?

And now you're feeling even more lost than when you started. Swamped. Confused.

I know I have.

Yet maybe there's another way through...
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acceptance

Mental Health Day: The Therapist Within


Cloudy days will come.

For you. For your family. For your friends.

And not just the kind that dominate the skies above you. But also the ones that help set the weather within you. The internal cloudy days that send your mental and emotional landscape into overcast sadness.

Cloudy days will

I was thinking this the other day, when some of my family came to Sydney to visit. Even now,...
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Beginnings

Dismantling Your Walls And Inviting Your Dreams In


I couldn’t help but smile when I walked past this building in my neighbourhood recently. There’s something beautifully absurd about a sign announcing “OFFICE” above a doorway that’s then been completely bricked-in. I wonder if they get much business…?

Yet what’s not so funny is how you might be doing this to yourself, to your life, at times. How you might be walling-off the very opportunities or happenings you’d like to take...
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acceptance

Learning To Sit Beside Yourself

Have you ever felt “beside yourself”?

Sort of in two places at once? Maybe shocked or surprised or even beside yourself with joy?

The Australian cartoonist and philosopher Michael Leunig, puts the experience this way:
“Come sit down beside me I said to myself,
And although it doesn't makes sense,

I held my own hand
As a small sign of trust
And together I sat on the fence.”

So is there a way of...
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CBT

Seeing What’s Inside You: Taking Your Internal Inventory

Have you cast a glance within yourself lately? The world outside, with all its splendour and pain, all its surprises and change, can be so compelling that it’s easy to forget that you are a part of that picture, too.

What’s in you can impact how you respond to what’s out there. It can affect how – and even what – you see in the world… how the world is for you.

So what’s...
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Change

What if it’s Already All Inside You? Perfect Imperfection and the Art of Letting Go

It’s winter here in Australia, but the fern in my garden doesn’t care. It’s putting out another new frond, unfurling, unfolding, even though it’s cold and the sun’s not out.

And the thing with these larger ferns is that, if you look closely, it’s as if you can see the whole frond already in there, just wrapped tight and waiting. Waiting for the plant to let go. To uncurl. All the fern has...
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death

How Death Can Bring You To Life: Existential Writing Exercises

There’s a well-known existential exercise that’s supposed to really ‘bring death home’ to you. And in so doing, really bring life home…

You might already know it. Basically, you take a moment to imagine your own headstone in a cemetery. And then you write what it would say about you. How it would capture a snapshot of your life as it is (which can sometimes highlight the gap between there and where you might...
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Anxiety

Expose Yourself: Anxiety, Fear and the Art of Graded Exposure Therapy

This sign is actually supposed to be about real estate (‘position, position, position’). But another form of exposure crossed my mind when I saw it (and not the lewd sort either).

For there’s yet another kind of exposure that’s worth exploring – graded exposure therapy. And interestingly enough, that also involves position in a way; the art of positioning yourself in a different place in relation to your fears.

So how does it...
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General

Finding Your “Me Cure” and Healing the Hurt

This photo captures one of those weird, inexplicable moments of synchronicity.
At the time it was taken, I was actually in my own therapy, feeling particularly lost and hurt, and trying to find a way back out of those dark places.

I remember I was on a bus on the way home, wrestling (again) with the same old stuff.

I recall asking myself:
"What do I need to get through this?"
And then...
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