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Old Keys, New Locks. Finding The Solution To Your Problem

I love this rusty old ring of keys. They’re originally from Germany, a land dotted with castles and drawbridges and ancient city walls.

And maybe these old keys were made to unlock some of those places. To get through those barriers. To unleash the secret spaces within.

But they certainly won’t open any door that stands before me now.

For the locks have changed.

(That seems pretty obvious. Slightly silly, even.)
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Therapy: the Good, the Bad and the Beautiful

Earlier this week, I was lucky enough to facilitate an 'in conversation' event with Rev Dr Stephanie Dowrick, as we explored the idea of seeking the sacred in life, and what that might look like.

On the way there, I spotted these words on a menu board in a restaurant garden:
“Enjoy the Beauty Inside”
I’m sure it meant the beauty inside the restaurant, but it seemed a really apt thing to see just before...
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Halloween on the Inside…

Out here in Australia, Halloween is an inherited festival that’s only just starting to catch on. And though is still seems a slightly foreign ritual to me, there are also benefits in approaching things like this as an outsider. For sometimes you can see into things a little differently with fresh eyes…

So maybe we can look at this tradition afresh together and find out what else Halloween might offer us (other than the...
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Therapy and the Art of Getting Well

I caught a bit of a cold recently so I’ve been feeling a little unwell (and not attending to this blog as often as I’d like).

This physical unwellness got me thinking about the nature of emotional ‘unwellness’, too – wondering what the signs and symptoms of that might be for each of us, and how it might impact us all in different ways. (And what kinds of things it might lead us...
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Time to Heal: How Long Does Healing (and Brief Therapy) Take?

They say ‘time heals all wounds’. But does it? Or are there other things involved in the healing, too?

If it is time that salves and soothes, how much time does it take to heal?

(And how on earth might a thing like time-limited brief therapy work?)

Perhaps it’s worth just investigating time for a moment. What’s your relationship with time like? Does it evaporate on you, too quickly gone? Are you in a kind of...
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Existential Issues

Finding Your Direction: How to Know Which Path to Choose


Sometimes there seems to be thousands of them: ‘right’ ones, ‘wrong’ ones, socially-sanctioned ones, ‘crazy’ ones, fabulous ones, fruitless ones, loop roads and dead ends.

Other times, it seems there are only a few to pick from.

Yet, even if there are only two options, you still have an important choice to make about the direction to take your life in.

This excerpt from Robert Frost’s famous poem The Road Not Taken captures this beautifully:
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