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If “Eternity Is Now” Then What Will You Do With It?



I came across a little piece of eternity the other day (there it is in the photo, above). Or, more precisely, it came across me. Tumbling towards me on the footpath. Blowin’ in the wind*.

Ok, so it was also just a loose page of a newspaper, blowing around the street, with an advertisement on it featuring a stone angel pointing towards a single word: “Eternity.”

Just a banal moment of dodging some...
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Change

Addictions, Experiments and Spirituality: Swap Your Cravings for Life

Why is this photo of a beach scene here, you might wonder. What’s that got to do with addictions?

It’s a good question.

(And the answer is even better).

For at a recent therapy workshop, Australian psychotherapist and addictions specialist Peter Harris noted that in his experience:
“The best solution for any addiction is a rich life.”
It’s pretty profound…

So when he’s working with people who have addictions like gambling, he might suggest running a...
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Decisions

Advice: Giving it and Getting it in Therapy and Life

It’s amazing where a sense of wisdom or insight can be found sometimes.

This sentence in the photograph above appears as the ‘fine print’ on a billboard advertising credit cards:
“Any advice given is general.
You should consider whether it is right for you.”
It sounds uncannily like it’s talking about more than just financial advice here…

So when it comes to you and your life, how are you with advice?
Do you...
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Change

Are You an ‘Expert’? Or Just Overgrown?

This photo was taken several years ago, and it’s always had a haunting quality about it for me. For having taken a stance many decades before, and not having the chance to change its position, this statue is gradually being overgrown. Subsumed. Lost.

It’s like some kind of fable, warning about what can happen if you stand still for too long…

And it reminds me of the many other ways we can perhaps stand too...
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Change

Rediscover You: Therapy and the Paradoxical Theory of Change

Be yourself,” implored Oscar Wilde. “Everyone else is taken.”

It sounds so logical when you put it like that. So straightforward and simple. And deceptively easy.

But how often do you find yourself actually doing this seemingly simple thing?
Just being who you are.
Feeling what you feel.

Or does it seem more habitual to suppress or censor that? To will yourself to be different somehow. To be how you ‘should’ be. Feel how you ‘should’...
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