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Living Through the Broken Bits: How Acceptance Can Help You Survive Damage

My little boy is two-and-a-half. Just old enough to start wrestling with the big stuff. And I’m not talking about tantrums, here. But the stuff that many of us will grapple with all the days of our lives.

Like brokenness…

He brings a toy or a flower to me in too many pieces.

“Fix it?”

His eyes are bright and wide, face beaming, awaiting the alchemy of togetherness and glue. He’s seen this magic many times....
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Mental Health Day: The Therapist Within

Cloudy days will come.

For you. For your family. For your friends.

And not just the kind that dominate the skies above you. But also the ones that help set the weather within you. The internal cloudy days that send your mental and emotional landscape into overcast sadness.

Cloudy days will

I was thinking this the other day, when some of my family came to Sydney to visit. Even now,...
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Seeking Psychological Shade

There’s a lot of extreme weather around at the moment. In Sydney, it’s hot – today reached over 40 degrees Celsius (104° Fahrenheit). Hot enough to feel yourself wilting. Hot enough to steal your sleep in the night.

So everyone’s gravitating to the shady side of the street… if they’re outside at all. For the sun is brutal.

Walking along the footpath, following the patches of whatever shade I could find, it struck me...
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Consulting Your Resilience And Weathering Life’s Storms

Queensland, Australia, is awash with extreme weather events right now: first floods, now a cyclone. It’s an incredibly tough time.

And what’s interesting is how the therapeutic community is responding. Once upon a time, the ‘experts’ – counselors, therapists, psychologists – might automatically have been trucked-in to sort of ‘rescue’ people from the trauma.

Now, though, people’s own expert status is also being recognized. Their own resilience. The strength and support...
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Toxic Relationships and Your Heart’s Bottom Line

This photo is of a tiny bit of street art at the train station – it’s only a couple of centimeters long. And you had to be quick to read its message, because it was painted over the very next day.

But what a message it was:
“can’t live without a baseline”
…written beneath a line of electrocardiogram-style heartbeats
and a heart…
So what’s your heart’s bottom line or baseline when it comes...
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Memories – Are There Any You’d Rather Forget?

I bought a little blue leather-bound photo album at a flea market many years ago. It’s full of someone else’s memories, captured in the black and white of the 1930s. And it offers an imaginative, somewhat eerie experience as you flip through it and wonder at what these memories might have meant to their owner (who is probably long gone).

The first image in the album (above) is of a train wreck…

So what of your own memories?...
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