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Beginnings

The Valentine’s Vine: Growing Love in Empty Hearts


My grandmother is a sly sage (as so many of our grandmothers seem to be).

On our most recent wander through her backyard, when I casually commented on her magnolia tree, she paused and replied,

“Yes, we have a lot to learn from the garden…”

And so we do.

It’s been a pretty bleak time for me over the last couple of years. (Which is why I took a break from blogging). Lots of changes driven...
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Emotions

Surviving Post-Mother’s-Day Blues


Are you over Mother’s Day yet?

And by that I mean, have you recovered from it? Healed again? Found your balance after the stormy emotions it might have rained down on you?

Because for many people this single day in the calendar echoes painfully in their hearts for much, much longer – sometimes days, sometimes weeks. It can unleash all kinds of sadness and despair. Why? There...
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acceptance

If “Eternity Is Now” Then What Will You Do With It?



I came across a little piece of eternity the other day (there it is in the photo, above). Or, more precisely, it came across me. Tumbling towards me on the footpath. Blowin’ in the wind*.

Ok, so it was also just a loose page of a newspaper, blowing around the street, with an advertisement on it featuring a stone angel pointing towards a single word: “Eternity.”

Just a banal moment of dodging some...
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acceptance

The Season Of Giving (Yourself A Break)


Yep, it’s that time of year already – again. Welcome to the season that packs so much into itself:

The “silly season”
The season of goodwill
Of giving and receiving
Of remembering or maybe even trying to forget…
Of balancing extra pressure and expectations
Of anniversaries and reflections; joy and pain.

It’s a complicated time of year…

So as you prepare yourself for whatever shades of the seasonal spectrum that you will face this time, maybe it’s work asking:

What...
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acceptance

Feel Like You Don’t Fit In? Learning To Celebrate Your Secret Self


Sometimes it’s hard not to feel like an outsider. Like you don’t quite fit in.

Maybe you’re carrying a certain sadness that sets you apart from the places that other people seem to inhabit right now. Or maybe you doubt your worth or your ability to contribute sometimes. Maybe you just feel “different.” Or even “weird.” Or that your values or the way you want to live your life...
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Black and White Thinking

You Are Not Your Thoughts: A Personal Philosophy Of Mind


I have a love-hate relationship with one of the major therapies endorsed by psychology today: cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).

Both as a therapist, and as a client, I know it can work. It can bring fast relief in acute times. So it's a good thing to have in your inner toolbox when you're working with the challenges life can throw you.

In a (very small) nutshell, CBT asks you to question...
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