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My grandmother is a sly sage (as so many of our grandmothers seem to be).
On our most recent wander through her backyard, when I casually commented on her magnolia tree, she paused and replied,
“Yes, we have a lot to learn from the garden…”
And so we do.
It’s been a pretty bleak time for me over the last couple of years. (Which is why I took a break from blogging). Lots of changes driven...
Are you over Mother’s Day yet?
And by that I mean, have you recovered from it? Healed again? Found your balance after the stormy emotions it might have rained down on you?
Because for many people this single day in the calendar echoes painfully in their hearts for much, much longer – sometimes days, sometimes weeks. It can unleash all kinds of sadness and despair. Why? There...
I was winding my way through the early morning rush hour at the station, past crowds of people blurring by, when this strange little moment of stillness opened up.
And then I saw it: a lost sole.
(In the picture, above).
A visual metaphor, reminding me of the times I’ve felt a bit like a lost soul myself. Or the times I’ve spoken...
I happened to spy this leaf on the path the other day. I was on my way to somewhere else and had my mind on other things, and could easily have walked right past it. Yet there it was.
And now found.
(And in the shape of a heart because of all those things, not despite them).
I came across a little piece of eternity the other day (there it is in the photo, above). Or, more precisely, it came across me. Tumbling towards me on the footpath. Blowin’ in the wind*.
Ok, so it was also just a loose page of a newspaper, blowing around the street, with an advertisement on it featuring a stone angel pointing towards a single word: “Eternity.”
Just a banal moment of dodging some...
It was on this same trip to work the other day, walking a different way, seeing different things, that I spotted this sign:
"FEED YOUR MIND."
And it led me to What are you feeding your mind?
Are you nourishing it?
Or mindlessly stuffing some junk in for a quick bit of rush?
What are you putting in there?
(And what are you hoping to get back out of it?)
In his book,...
Yep, it’s that time of year already – again. Welcome to the season that packs so much into itself:
The “silly season”
The season of goodwill
Of giving and receiving
Of remembering or maybe even trying to forget…
Of balancing extra pressure and expectations
Of anniversaries and reflections; joy and pain.
It’s a complicated time of year…
So as you prepare yourself for whatever shades of the seasonal spectrum that you will face this time, maybe it’s work asking:
Sometimes it’s hard not to feel like an outsider. Like you don’t quite fit in.
Maybe you’re carrying a certain sadness that sets you apart from the places that other people seem to inhabit right now. Or maybe you doubt your worth or your ability to contribute sometimes. Maybe you just feel “different.” Or even “weird.” Or that your values or the way you want to live your life...
I have a love-hate relationship with one of the major therapies endorsed by psychology today: cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).
Both as a therapist, and as a client, I know it can work. It can bring fast relief in acute times. So it's a good thing to have in your inner toolbox when you're working with the challenges life can throw you.
In a (very small) nutshell, CBT asks you to question...