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Boundaries

Mindfulness And Multitasking: Can You Do Both At Once?


Well, how did that happen? It’s February already…

So maybe you’re already right back into the swing of things, drawn back to the thousand appointments and meetings and obligations calling your name - just like all these little Post-it notes stuck to the window in the photo, above, practically obscuring the person who put them there.

All that stuff that wants to be done. Now. (Or maybe even wanted to be done...
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acceptance

If “Eternity Is Now” Then What Will You Do With It?



I came across a little piece of eternity the other day (there it is in the photo, above). Or, more precisely, it came across me. Tumbling towards me on the footpath. Blowin’ in the wind*.

Ok, so it was also just a loose page of a newspaper, blowing around the street, with an advertisement on it featuring a stone angel pointing towards a single word: “Eternity.”

Just a banal moment of dodging some...
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Change

How To Stop Arguing With Yourself And Make A Decision



Have you ever tried to make up your mind about something and then found yourself lost in a never-ending argument of pros and cons? Looking for "the right" answer… Where you catch yourself thinking: "On this hand…" and "On the other hand…" until it's all completely out of hand?

And now you're feeling even more lost than when you started. Swamped. Confused.

I know I have.

Yet maybe there's another way through...
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Beginnings

Perfectionism, Procrastination And Preparing A Plan For Your Life


How will you know that you're ready to start? Once you've planned and perfected and plotted all your goals on a graph, like we're so often encouraged to do. How will you know you're ready?

It's an important question, whatever change or dream or hope you might be facing. (And, life being what it is, it's pretty rare not to be facing one of these sorts of things…)

So how will you know you've...
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acceptance

Feeling Overwhelmed? Here Are Some Ways Through

Sometimes life is just challenging. Hard, even. Just when you think you've got plenty to deal with, along comes even more. Right on time.

It can start to swamp you. Overwhelm you.

That's what this photo reminds me of (above). A street art tsunami coming for you at the end of a no-through-road. It can feel hard to

So what can you do to help yourself through the overwhelm? How can you get through life's no-through-roads?

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acceptance

Getting Back On The Wagon: Success, Failure And The Cycle Of Change

Have you started some new ways of being lately?
Or stopped some old ones?
Some habits.
Some patterns.
Some life choices.

Whatever you call them, they can be challenging to maintain sometimes. Harder, perhaps, to keep in place than it is to kick them off.

So maybe you’ve stopped “emotional eating” (or wanted to).
Or changed the rate at which you turn to certain substances for support.
Maybe you’ve started a more nourishing routine in your life (adding more exercise...
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acceptance

Are You Practicing Perfection? Or Are You A Work In Progress?

What’s your relationship with perfectionism like?

Does it sometimes storm in wielding a red pen?
Does it make it hard for you to even begin things sometimes, knowing that it’s waiting to judge you?
Or have you learned to negotiate with it?

There’s something that’s always struck me as a little strange about perfectionism. It assumes completion – that a thing can be finished. Whole. Over. Done. So in a world where it seems that
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