Archives for November, 2011

Change

How To Stop Arguing With Yourself And Make A Decision



Have you ever tried to make up your mind about something and then found yourself lost in a never-ending argument of pros and cons? Looking for "the right" answer… Where you catch yourself thinking: "On this hand…" and "On the other hand…" until it's all completely out of hand?

And now you're feeling even more lost than when you started. Swamped. Confused.

I know I have.

Yet maybe there's another way through...
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Black and White Thinking

You Are Not Your Thoughts: A Personal Philosophy Of Mind


I have a love-hate relationship with one of the major therapies endorsed by psychology today: cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).

Both as a therapist, and as a client, I know it can work. It can bring fast relief in acute times. So it's a good thing to have in your inner toolbox when you're working with the challenges life can throw you.

In a (very small) nutshell, CBT asks you to question...
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Beginnings

Perfectionism, Procrastination And Preparing A Plan For Your Life


How will you know that you're ready to start? Once you've planned and perfected and plotted all your goals on a graph, like we're so often encouraged to do. How will you know you're ready?

It's an important question, whatever change or dream or hope you might be facing. (And, life being what it is, it's pretty rare not to be facing one of these sorts of things…)

So how will you know you've...
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