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Archives for September, 2011

CBT

Healing Your Chronic Pain And Finding Relief (Part 1)


Are you in pain?

Not just the emotional or relational or physiological or existential pain that most of us will feel sometime in our lives. But the purely physical stuff – especially the chronic, ongoing kind that can accompany you for many years.

It can be such a challenge to live with. The constant nagging of your nerves or muscles can really get you down. It can strip your life of joy....
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Change

Existential Editing: Cutting Back On What You Don’t Need In Your Life


You know those times when the same message keeps on turning up in your life? Over and over? Where you keep recognising the same idea in many different places (and you know you could apply it to yourself)? Well, I’m having one of those times.

And the message is about editing. Cutting back. Slicing off the excess to leave some empty space.

To leave more room for simply living.

(Something in me relaxes even...
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Anger

What Is Anger Trying To Tell You About Your Life?


Anger. It’s got a pretty bad reputation. And we’re often told what to do with it: be careful with it. Suppress it. Vent it. Override it. It’s like anger’s some kind of volatile, toxic force to be harnessed or defused.

But maybe there’s another way of looking at it altogether.

Maybe you can actually learn from anger. Listen to it. See what it has to tell you. Get curious about it.

The...
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Beginnings

Dismantling Your Walls And Inviting Your Dreams In


I couldn’t help but smile when I walked past this building in my neighbourhood recently. There’s something beautifully absurd about a sign announcing “OFFICE” above a doorway that’s then been completely bricked-in. I wonder if they get much business…?

Yet what’s not so funny is how you might be doing this to yourself, to your life, at times. How you might be walling-off the very opportunities or happenings you’d like to take...
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Boundaries

Who Do You Let In? Defining Your Boundaries And Staying Safe But Not Isolated.


I had a set of spare keys cut yesterday, so I can store them at a friend's place in case I lock myself out. And it got me

What about the keys to your internal spaces?

The keys to your thoughts, your dreams? Your ups your downs? Your emotional and psychological home. How many people in your life have access to the inner sanctum of youWho's got keys?

It's worth having a...
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Creativity

Writing The Story Of Your Life: Narrative Therapy And Healing

Storytelling seems to be written so deeply into us. We’ve done it for millennia, to capture knowledge and wisdom and heart. Yet stories aren’t only verbal. They’re visceral, too. They’re the lived-out stories of our days.

So what kind of story are you telling with your life?

Where might the story of you be headed right now?
(And is that where you’d like it to go?)

When you pull back from the minutiae...
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acceptance

Feeling Overwhelmed? Here Are Some Ways Through

Sometimes life is just challenging. Hard, even. Just when you think you've got plenty to deal with, along comes even more. Right on time.

It can start to swamp you. Overwhelm you.

That's what this photo reminds me of (above). A street art tsunami coming for you at the end of a no-through-road. It can feel hard to

So what can you do to help yourself through the overwhelm? How can you get through life's no-through-roads?

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