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Becoming Your Own Inner Gardener

In a book I’m currently reading, I came across this quote:


“There are always more leaves than flowers”*

… Or perhaps a notion that there’s “always” more “mundane” times than “special” ones. “Always” fewer of the blossoming moments of perfume and petals in life…

Except for the magnolia I just walked past (in the photo above), all branches and blooms bursting into the sky, not a single leaf in sight. (Don’t you love exceptions?)

The leaves and the blossoms in life can be seasonal, it seems.

So which season are you in right now?

Which parts of your life are blossoming?

Or perhaps even growing out of control?

Which parts might feel barren or empty?

(Or perhaps simply dormant for now, but maybe actually gathering strength in their own way, getting ready to flourish again when the time is right.)

And are there things you could do to help any of this stuff along – to help yourself ultimately burst into bloom?

Maybe there’s certain kinds of nourishment that you could apply in your life.
Perhaps some regular attention or watering or care.
(And what might these actually be for you? Just take a second or two right now to see what answers might come up.)

Or maybe for the moment, it’s more about pruning back the vines of the stuff you don’t want so much of in your life, to make it easier for the things you do.

Both important tasks: growing and pruning. Both perhaps part of self-growth.

And, in a way, you are both the plant and the gardener…

The lived and the living…

So maybe it’s about finding your own unique balance of “flowers” and “leaves”…


*Quote from My Life by Lyn Hejinian
Photo and text copyright: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a writer, blogger and Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She was the former editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.
Becoming Your Own Inner Gardener

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Gawne-Kelnar, G. (2011). Becoming Your Own Inner Gardener. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 22, 2020, from


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