Archives for July, 2011

CBT

Seeing What’s Inside You: Taking Your Internal Inventory

Have you cast a glance within yourself lately? The world outside, with all its splendour and pain, all its surprises and change, can be so compelling that it’s easy to forget that you are a part of that picture, too.

What’s in you can impact how you respond to what’s out there. It can affect how – and even what – you see in the world… how the world is for you.

So what’s...
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General

Stopping To See Life’s Little (Big) Moments: Everyday Mindfulness


How easy it can be to let the moments just slip on by. And keep slipping.

Caught in a web of 'more important' things to do, of obligations and responsibilities, you might find yourself at times not quite noticing what's around you. Not quite living out your own life...

Have you ever felt that feeling?

Maybe you're just too busy to notice the countless little impossibilities unfolding all around you. Or under too much pressure worrying about...
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acceptance

Healing The Emptiness Inside You

There’s a saying about bowls. It comes from an ancient text, but maybe it’s just as applicable today (bowls haven’t changed much in that time…).

It’s about the fact that the absence of bowl is just as important as its presence. That the emptiness inside it is crucial to its nature. The emptiness makes it possible – is its essence, in a way:

“Mould clay into a bowl.
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Change

How Not To Become A Museum: Noticing Habits That Hold You Back

When I first spotted this dog (in the photo) behind the window in a local street, my initial thoughts were of “the one with the waggly tail.” But then other, perhaps deeper, thoughts bubbled up.

Like, what are you keeping behind glass?

What are you storing ‘safely’ away, preventing from roaming free in the world?

Which parts of you might you be keeping to yourself or restricting in some way? (Maybe even hiding, or wishing...
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Change

Are You The Land That Time Forgot?

Time does so many things in our lives (or at least our conception of it, and relation to it does).

Some think it 'heals all wounds'.
Or that it’s ‘on their side’.
Or that it moves too quickly.
That it 'conquers all' (as the photo suggests).
That it rules our calendars with appointments and obligations.
That it frames our very lives…

Who knows what this time stuff actually is?..

But one thing it seems to do (at least in our...
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Emotions

Learning Lessons from Life and Serendipity

I stumbled upon some serendipity the other day. It was travelling on a bus. So was I.

Just as I was thinking about my life, and how I might get through some challenges, I happened to look up. Up there, near the ceiling, a small bureaucratic sticker had been partly covered over (the complete version is in the photo above).

Now, though, instead of advising passengers to keep their belongings close, this particular sticker offered something that...
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Healing

Wish You Were Here: Your Mindfulness Postcard to Self

Just stop for a second. (Or maybe “pause” is a better word…)

Where were you just then?

Where were your thoughts?
Your feelings?
Your gut reactions?

If you’d sent yourself a postcard from then to now, how far would it have to go to really reach you? How many countries of the mind would it have to travel?

Through busy-ness?
Overload?
Distraction?
Pain?

Where are you in the middle of all that?
You, the traveler of all these territories?

Come, let’s take a short...
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Emotions

Getting the Love You Want: Interview with Harville Hendrix (Part 3)

Welcome to Part 3 of this interview with Dr Harville Hendrix, co-founder of Imago Relationship Therapy and internationally renowned bestselling author of “Getting the Love You Want.”

Here, Dr Hendrix starts out by talking about how neuroscience might impact who you are in relationships, too:

For the past two or three years I’ve been reading a lot on brain research, and the brain people seem to agree … that an integrated brain is the...
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