Archives for January, 2011

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Coming To Your Senses: Moments of Mindfulness In The Everyday

I was hanging out the washing in the backyard yesterday, mildly annoyed with having to do this chore, when I happened to glance over my shoulder.

This butterfly filled my vision…

And suddenly the mundane became exquisite.

Have you had one of those moments lately? Where something small sort of awakened you and seemed to elevate whatever you were doing, bringing it richness and depth.

It’s this ‘small stuff’, and the paying of attention to it, that mindfulness...
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General

Old Keys, New Locks. Finding The Solution To Your Problem

I love this rusty old ring of keys. They’re originally from Germany, a land dotted with castles and drawbridges and ancient city walls.

And maybe these old keys were made to unlock some of those places. To get through those barriers. To unleash the secret spaces within.

But they certainly won’t open any door that stands before me now.

For the locks have changed.

(That seems pretty obvious. Slightly silly, even.)
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General

Stopping The Things That Stop You: Bringing Therapy To Life

Graffiti’s an inspiring thing sometimes.
This bit, “share the wealth!” sprayed across a back alley, no doubt refers to financial wealth. But you also have an internal wealth of things – like emotions, ideas, experiences, creativity, insights, wisdoms, and a self – to share.

But do you share them?

Or does it feel ‘easier’ or ‘safer’ to hold back sometimes?

Maybe perfectionism gets in the way, insisting that whatever you share of yourself always has to be...
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Anxiety

“No Leave, No Life.” Can Death Anxiety be Therapeutic?



“No Leave No Life.”
This billboard is only meant to be about taking time off work. Just going on holiday; planning a trip; embracing a bit of tourism.

But if you read it again, a little differently, it seems to whisper at something much bigger.

Something more like: if there’s no leaving, there’s no life.
Or: there’s no life without leaving.

Suddenly, it seems to be about mortality, our ticket out of here,...
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Emotions

Finding Your Door To Happiness. And Opening It.

Hidden down a back alley, somewhere along an expanse of a grey wall, I stumbled unexpectedly upon this mysterious little red door.

Colour in the midst of drabness. Mystery in the mundane. And a way through the grey. It seemed slightly Alice-in-wonderland-ish. A portal leading from this place to some other.

Maybe happiness is a little like this in some ways?
Vibrant. Transporting. And ultimately somewhat mysterious.

For though so many of us search for it,...
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Change

Habits: Choosing and Re-choosing Your Path in Life

At any moment, you’re often surrounded by choices, big and small. A myriad of potential paths branching off in all directions, beckoning.

Just take a quick look around: choices about what to say (or not), to think (or not), to question or to assume, to do, to be. Choices about what to eat, who to spend your time with, how to approach your work, your leisure and your life, and even whether or...
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Emotions

Toxic Relationships and Your Heart’s Bottom Line

This photo is of a tiny bit of street art at the train station – it’s only a couple of centimeters long. And you had to be quick to read its message, because it was painted over the very next day.

But what a message it was:
“can’t live without a baseline”
…written beneath a line of electrocardiogram-style heartbeats
and a heart…
So what’s your heart’s bottom line or baseline when it comes...
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acceptance

Your Emotional Tides (You Are Not Your Sadness)

I grew up fairly close to the coast, so visiting the beach and its nearby lagoons was an important part of our family life. What amazed me, as a child, was how unpredictable the tides seemed – sometimes there’d be water everywhere, with currents coursing; sometimes the whole place looked barren and dry – always according to its own mysterious rhythms.

Perhaps it’s the same with our emotions?

Sometimes brimming with a sense of...
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