This photo captures one of those weird, inexplicable moments of synchronicity.
At the time it was taken, I was actually in my own therapy, feeling particularly lost and hurt, and trying to find a way back out of those dark places.
I remember I was on a bus on the way home, wrestling (again) with the same old stuff.
I recall asking myself:
“What do I need to get through this?”
And then suddenly, this giant hot pink neon sign swung into view as the bus turned a corner:
(Serendipity isn’t always subtle, it seems…)
So what about you?
What do you need?
What would healing actually mean in your life?
Where would it start?
What does your ‘me cure’ look like?
These questions might seem a little flippant at first. They’re quick to read, so they can seem simplistic. The temptation might be to just skim over them and move on.
But, if you have a couple of minutes just now, see what happens if you ask them of yourself really slowly.
One at a time.
And then don’t even actually try to answer them…
For what happens if you just sit there with those questions in the darkness and wait for a moment?
See if anything bubbles up of its own accord.
Maybe it’ll be in words. Or maybe in pictures, or song, or a feeling, or some other format.
What happens if you just let your stream of consciousness flow wherever it wants to in response to these sorts of queries?
If you could just immerse yourself in them and let them wash over you for a moment.
For perhaps the answers to these sorts of things aren’t always just cognitive.
Perhaps there’s solutions and ways through that the mind alone might struggle to grasp.
Maybe other places – quieter places – might have their role to play, too.
And maybe leaving more space, more time, for those other parts of you might help invite them into the picture.
After all, in the picture of that neon sign, it was the space that made all the difference. The space of one missing letter that literally brought the ‘me cure’ into being.
Before that moment, I might have been tempted to see this sign as just broken.
But it taught me that even the seemingly broken has value.
Even the broken places have their answers to give.
And they can sometimes even lead to healing…
(I wonder what your inner answers might hold).
*The sign actually says ”Mercure’. It was fixed about a day later.
Photo: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a writer, blogger and Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also co-facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She is the editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.