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Tears and Your Internal Weather Patterns

It’s raining today and hundreds of droplets cover the windows of the train I’m in.

If you come in really close and look inside each raindrop on the pane, you can see a whole world captured in there – an upside-down and slightly refracted reflection of the world outside. So by looking into these liquid prisms, you’ll get a condensed, sometimes sharper or brighter vision of what’s going on.

Perhaps it’s the same with tears…

Maybe it’s possible to look into them in much the same way. To get in close to them and focus on what they, too, might reveal.

So, firstly, what do tears mean to you?

Are they a sign of weakness or surrender?
A release?
A form of evidence?
A way of honouring your pain?

How do you feel when you cry? (If you let yourself).
Does it change the way you see your identity?

And then what about the tears themselves?

If they could speak, what might they say?

What might they wish for, yearn for, long for?

What important message could they hold for you, that sunshine might not teach?

And what would it mean to just listen to them for a moment, to look into them like this, before you wipe them away?

For perhaps our internal weather patterns are as vital and as varied as the external ones in the world around us.

Perhaps there’s nourishment for us in all seasons.

So what might it be like to let the drought break sometimes and welcome your inner rain?


Photo: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar

Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also co-facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She is the editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.

Tears and Your Internal Weather Patterns

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Gawne-Kelnar, G. (2010). Tears and Your Internal Weather Patterns. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 27, 2020, from


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