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Family Life

How to Encourage Critical Thinking in Kids

In an age when most kids are glued to their phones and their primary mode of communication is Snapchat, it's a concern for many parents as far as to how to help their kids develop critical thinking. In a recent radio interview with WGN’s Vic Vaughn, we explored how to help kids become better able to objectively evaluate situations and form opinions that reflect empathy, compassion and cultural sensitivity. My responses to the...
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Psychology

Consensual Sex is an Ongoing Dialogue, Not Simply a Yes

The #MeToo movement and the Aziz Ansari story have inspired much needed discussion about the boundaries involved in consensual sex. In today’s hookup culture, often sexual partners barely know each other, so they don't have a longstanding, trusting rapport at the foundation of their relationship. They lack a deeper understanding of each other’s emotional, physical and sexual comfort levels and limits. This puts them at risk for having sexual encounters that may have started out as consensual, but then became uncomfortable,...
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Family Life

How to Promote Healthy Emotional-Social Development of iGen Teens


In her popular article, Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?, Jean M. Twenge refers to the “iGen”---those born between 1995 and 2012 that have been shaped by smartphones and social media. She says that while this generation might be physically safer than adolescents have ever been (because they’re “more comfortable online than out partying”), they are “on the brink of a mental health crisis.“ She adds that the research says, “The more time teens spend...
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Psychology

#metoo: How to Respond to Sexual Trauma



Many of you have probably seen friends post "#metoo" on Twitter, Facebook and social media.  In the wake of recent allegations of multiple sexual harassment and sexual assault per Harvey Weinstein, actress Alyssa Milano suggested people  utilize the #MeToo campaign (founded by Tarana Burke) for victims of sexual assault to break their silence and share their stories.

As a therapist who is passionate about the destigmatization of mental health issues,...
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General

How to Cope After Acts of Mass Violence

After acts of mass violence, including the recent mass shooting in Las Vegas, we may be left without words and with diminished hope. We might ask ourselves, “Why is this occurring? What is happening to the world? What does this mean for our future?”

It's difficult for our minds and hearts to process our thoughts and feelings about horrific acts of violence that happen throughout our world. As a psychotherapist who has been practicing for more...
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Grief

5 Tips for Dealing with Grief


Whether you lost a loved one to sickness, tragedy , divorce or even a significant break-up, loss is a trauma. Losses can create identity challenges, lifestyle changes, financial problems and even have social implications.

After 20 years of counseling clients through grief as well as experiencing my own losses, I recommend the following:

1) Be patient with yourself.  There is no timeline for grief.  It is different for each person.  Honor your feelings and your own experience. ...
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