2 thoughts on “Perfectionism: 8 Tools for Parents with Kids Afraid to Fail

  • November 28, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    I absolutely LOVE #8, my college sculpture professor did this exact thing. We spent weeks sculpting model heads out of clay (we were going to be graded on how perfectly they matched the original). On the day of the critique, before firing, he had us all pick up our heads and throw them in the trash. If you refused, he smashed your head for you! He told us that we needed to learn that there is no such thing as a masterpiece and there is nothing that you make that cannot be remade. To think otherwise is to allow yourself to be ruled by fear of failure. Failure is experimentation. I struggle with perfectionism, but have carried this lesson with me and have always found “letting the dice roll” to be so much more rewarding and informative!

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    • November 28, 2017 at 11:53 pm

      I should mention that he then gave us 3 days to recreate them! Not one matched the original perfectly, but every single head was a unique interpretation.

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