3 thoughts on “I Think Mom Has a Mental Disorder

  • January 19, 2017 at 3:49 am

    I’ve sang your praises to you many times. I’m still, after several years of admiring you, in great awe of your strength and determination to be the best Sarah you can possibly be. You’ll never fail Sarah.
    My two heroes in this world who are actual human beings; Sarah Burleton and Dave Peltzer. Inspirational and successful warriors is what you both are to me!
    I wish all those abused throughout their childhood could find their inner strength. With people like you and Mr. Peltzer sharing your stories and how you found your inner fighter, perhaps more will emerge victorious.

    You’ll never cease to be awesome to me Sarah!

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  • January 20, 2017 at 4:21 am

    I guess it’s the unanswered questions that plague deep thinkers/intellectual types more than anything else at the end of the day…. the painful “why was I not good enough” we, as adults, are still pondering years after a childhood filled with invalidation/abuse.

    I think knowledge helps. And people. Hearing the experiences of others and knowing we are not alone (even when we feel more alone than we could possibly articulate).

    Maybe it is a good thing you cannot understand how your mom could treat you so badly and still sleep at night. It shows you are capable of empathy and are breaking the cycle of abuse by being a good mother to your own children. My father taught me growing up that you can lean just as much from people you dislike as the people who you idolize. Your mother clearly modeled horrific behavior and you (being the mature, thoughtful, and smart child I’m convinced you were) decided she stood for everything you did not wish to become. She inadvertently pushed you to become independent, introspective, and successful by making your life with her so unbearable that it sounds as though you had to leave to save your sanity.

    I’m not a psychiatrist but from what you said it sounds like your mother probably has a very pronounced personality disorder (people with narcissistic and antisocial personality disorders both usually demonstrate the following: excessive lying, coercion, or using psychologically exploitative tactics to get what they want, have a low tolerance for what they view as incompetent behavior by others, can be manipulative and potentially violent/aggressive when enraged, lack empathy, lack accountability, have feelings of entitlement, delusions of grandeur, disregard for the law, etc.). You have my sympathies.

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  • February 28, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    I just finished reading 2 of your books, and could not put them down. Yes, she definitely had a mental disorder, and I am so so sorry that you were the brunt of her mental instability. My heart aches for you as a child and teenager.

    One question—-Why do you still call her “Mom” when she does not deserve that title? Can you just call her by her first name? or “the woman who gave birth to me?” “Mom” is a treasured title and she should not have the privilege to be called by that name.

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