4 thoughts on “The Duck On The Millpond: When Self-Esteem Rides on Faulty Assumptions About Others.

  • February 4, 2018 at 1:37 am

    Great post Tess. Our culture strongly encourages shows of coping and to keep internal struggles private. Posts like these will hopefully reach people and encourage them to access help.

    • February 4, 2018 at 2:05 am

      Thanks Nadene, I completely agree with you. The Australia “she’ll be right” attitude is a huge barrier to help-seeking. I’d love to hear from some American readers how this manifests there. I’m sure there is a similar experience.

  • February 4, 2018 at 2:52 am

    Great post, Dr. Tess! I am not sure if I had a chance to read the first one but I will check it out in case I missed it!
    I have 2 undergraduate degrees in the mental health field and graduated over a decade ago as what they call a “non-traditional student” meaning I was a working adult who had been out of high school a number of years. At the time, I was working in retail but I knew that was not my passion. I knew I wanted to help others. In fact, before I even entered college, I’d also done some work at a mental health agency as a respite care counselor. I loved it but after about 5 years working my full time retail job days and respite care several nights per week on third shift, I had to let the second job go because 60-80 hours per week was just too much.
    I have ptsd due to years of childhood abuse, Major Depression and anxiety disorder as well as episodes of panic. My abuser, a former family member, died just 2 weeks ago. I am also facing several medical issues –one of which has brought about an upcoming surgery on Tuesday. Although I have been doing pretty well for a while now, despite being on disability, I still have my struggles. The past few days things have felt pretty intense for me emotionally. I too hope the stigma will lessen — if not disappear completely! I have been told I am good at helping others. Unfortunately, I have already noticed that it is hard to get back into the workforce in ANY job once you have been out of it for quite some time. I hope someone gives me a chance once I recover from my current medical issues and surgery.

    • February 4, 2018 at 3:10 am

      Thank you for your detailed comment. I can see there has been a lot going on for you! I wish you all the very best with recovery from your surgery and your ongoing therapy journey, it can be a long road. One step at a time is always the best way forward. Good luck with your hopes for work, too. Best wishes! Tess.


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