4 thoughts on “Sexuality as a Spiritual Act

  • February 13, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    I understand this completely.I found my soulmate once and experienced this type of intimacy.Sex to me had always been deeply connected to spirituality,I never took it for granted,it always had a deep Connection for me. Unfortunately my heart was broken and I no longer trust sex.I have been in deep depression for sometime and am considering suicide.I feel the sexual window has closed for me.Without that connection life is very meaningless.Article very accurate but when you are cut off I would rather be dead.

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    • February 15, 2018 at 4:55 pm

      I would say, perhaps that was not your soulmate just someone who was able to go deeper with you. You could find another who will connect even more! I would not be concerned about finding sexuality with someone right now, how about working on what Jon needs? Looking in the mirror and saying “what do you need jon” and answer yourself. You cannot find happiness in others until you find your own happiness inside yourself.

      Please if you are considering ending it, call 911 right now and tell them you are thinking about suicide and to pick you up. They will take you to the ER. or call 1-800-273-8255, this is a suicide hotline and you can remain anonymous if you prefer.

      May God heal your heart Jon.

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  • February 14, 2018 at 3:27 am

    Hi Monique,
    I must say you have both educated me (once again) and surprised me with this article!
    In terms of education, although I am not married or in a relationship and haven’t been in a relationship for several years now, I never thought about sexual intimacy with one’s spouse AND spirituality as being at all related. In fact, quite the opposite was true. Sex to me was something that God created to be enjoyed during marriage for the purpose of creating children BUT matters of faith, spirituality and God did not belong in the bedroom.
    I also think that because of the years of abuse I went through as a child and teenager, to me sex was not something I wanted anything to do with when I thought of marrying in my future. It was scary, painful and an obligation, a marital duty.
    The surprise for me (as well as education) is because I always believed that people who are Muslim–especially women, were never allowed to speak of anything sexual, to enjoy intimacy with one’s spouse etc. I am incredibly naive in some ways apparently!

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    • February 15, 2018 at 4:52 pm

      So many people think sexuality is taboo, but really is it not a gift from God? Just has to be in moderation and appropriate, like all things in life. Quran tells us that spouses are meant to be a comfort and a mercy for one another, so we should show love and intimacy. Bible does not condemn sexuality, just the wrongful use of it. My husband is a gift from God and I a gift for him, im grateful for that.

      Now I used to have a bad perspective on sexuality due to abuse, so I get that, but over time my wounds have healed and I see it more as a beautiful level of intimacy and trust.

      As for Muslims talking about sexuality, honestly you probably won’t find it very often lol That is an issue though, it is not immodest to talk about sexuality and understand it. I won’t speak personally or about explicit terms unless it is female only audience. If people don’t have dialogue they won’t understand they will believe the google and youtube version of sexuality, which is very perverse and off key. I don’t see anything I said as being offensive or immodest. I am a conservative woman, but I am not a quiet woman lol I speak up

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