2 thoughts on “Single, 61, and Seeking Close Friends: Guest Post by M. J. Coreil

  • February 13, 2020 at 12:46 pm

    It is impossible to find the perfect balance between the benefits of solitude and the comfort of company.
    Alas, there seems to be no perfect balance in anything. I think the thing (that works for me) is to go with the flow with the certainty that things are going to change, the pendulum will sing.
    I admire her courage to try something as large as moving to a ew city alone,at any age. Adventures await.

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  • February 16, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    This article has excellent advice and presents a realistic perspective on some of the unexpected issues that can arise for single women, especially older women, who make large moves to explore new ways to live. I found something similar happen to me but in an unexpected move from a large city to a rural town in New York.

    Though I knew I probably couldn’t be perfectly happy in a rural area, I was determined not to be unhappy but to enjoy country life and look for activity and friendship among neighbors and peers. It has been very hard to find. I’ve tried lots of activities with a variety of people, families, and couples but have never felt that sense of belonging. My friendships with my city friends have suffered as well because of my absence and after five years, I’m thinking that I want to go back home. That’s what I realize my 40 years of urban living was, in fact – home. I’m not sure how to do that yet as I have to work and actually found a late life job I love where I currently live. But not having a network of friends, activities of interest and the familiarity of known surroundings makes one feel more vulnerable and isolated rather than simply single. I’ve always been single by choice and have never regretted it but I think the challenges are much greater than we’re led to believe by most of what’s written in popular columns and articles. Though everyone has different personalities and experiences, I appreciate the tone and honesty of this article.

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