2 thoughts on “Let’s Value Men’s Friendships as Much as Their Romantic Relationships: Guest Post by Kim Evensen

  • March 23, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    This is a wonderful post! As a woman, I don’t think I can help but be a feminist, but ever since reading “The Hidden Spirituality of Men” by Matthew Fox, I’ve generally considered myself to be a “masculist” too. It’s great that it’s slowly becoming more OK for women to do things traditionally reserved for men, but until men can do things that have been typically reserved for women — including such HUMAN things as expressing emotions when they have them (or, for that matter even HAVING emotions in the first place) and getting whatever emotional and social support they need from the others in their life — we still don’t have a truly gender-equal society. Men get the short end of a lot of sticks in that way (not to belittle the short ends of other sticks that women still get, of course).
    I’ve also read “Delusions of Gender” by Cordelia Fine, and was surprised to learn that, just as there’s little to no solid evidence that marriage is a health benefit, there is also little to no solid evidence of hardwired differences between men and women; it’s nearly all cultural- or nurture-based. (Popular media continues to disseminate the bad science in both cases, of course.) I’m so glad there are people working to make changes where they’re needed!

  • April 22, 2018 at 8:10 pm

    The way wealthy people have created a race to the bottom has destroyed men’s chances of forming friendships at home and in the workplace. Males have to view each other as competitors instead of comrades and it is now everyone for himself.


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