3 thoughts on “How Many Married Couples Are Truly Happy? Here’s the Accurate Answer Readers Are Embracing

  • December 23, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    I really like your answer too. 🙂

    It seems like it ought to be commonsensical that the thing that increases wellbeing — health, happiness, satisfaction, whatever one chooses to assess — is being true to oneself no matter what the status quo might prescribe. How much of the problem, I wonder, is the programmed tendency in our culture (and how many others) to put more trust in outside authorities than in one’s own inner wisdom? When did a lab coat, a degree, or even simply a stance at the front of a room come to mean that what the person who had that was more qualified to tell us what we need (or should want) than the voice of our own hearts?

    Much gratitude for using your degree to validate those of us who are tired of the messages that we need or should want to couple up, and happy holidays!

    • December 23, 2017 at 3:43 pm

      Thanks, NCP, for your kind words and wise observations.

  • November 13, 2019 at 6:17 pm

    I heard recently from Dr. Grande (clinical psychologist with Youtube channel) that, based on clinical research, of couples who remain married long-term (that is, excluding those who divorce), only 20 to 30% are happy and satisfied. That is, 70 to 80% of them are dissatisfied or unhappy with their relationships.

    Assuming that’s true, it would mean that only about 10 to 15% of people who get married end up in a marriage that they are happy and satisfied with over the long-term. Half of them get divorced, and only 20 to 30% of the remaining half are happy/satisfied in the long run. That works out to approximately a 10 to 15% overall chance of ending up in a happy, satisfying long-term marriage.

    I wish I had a citation for you to follow up on, but I don’t. Dr. Grande, who labels his channel “evidence based” and said that this was based on the clinical research, and referred to it as “grim figures indeed” (although he is pro-marriage and went on to encourage marriage despite the stats he’d just cited).

    I also heard a similar stat for sexual satisfaction in long-term marriages. Only about 20 to 30% of those who remained married over the long term were satisfied with their sex lives. That’s not counting the half that divorced, who probably weren’t all that excited about theirs, either.


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