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  • May 26, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    There are so many layers to the ‘single’ parent raising children scenario. When I first became ‘single’ with 3 children, I was in a major pity party because I didn’t think I could, or should, raise my kids outside of a traditional marriage. So engrained was this cultural expectation and deficit model of single parent homes. I clearly remember licking my wounds and being very distraught with another mother regarding my situation. Basically she told me to buck up and stop the pity party, and that there is nothing wrong or deficient in raising children ‘alone’, and why was I thinking my situation was so unique. She spoke of all the women she has known who have done it just fine, and that I would to. This tough love approach helped me to take the very first steps toward confidence and independence and a conscious choice to stop listening to or reading about the plight of single mothers. I had to embark upon a complete shift in thinking and perceiving parenting and what it really, truly means — loving and caring for dependent persons.

    The health thing is something I never paid much attention to, yet I can say with all certainty today that I am healthier now than when married .. in many, many ways. I am a better mother, too. Sure this has something to do with the health and wellness of the other parent, and I was able to step away from that. So there’s that whole aspect of ‘becoming a single parent’ and the reasons behind it that play in to the health topic, IMHO.

    Aside from all the chatter that surrounds the differences in parenting models, I would agree with Bella’s findings that the only ‘given’ is that single mothers are not as financially secure. Not in all cases, of course.

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