4 thoughts on “How to Sap the Power from Insults

  • February 1, 2014 at 6:41 am

    This hasn’t worked, when I’ve applied it to the nasty labels that anyone gives me” it has backfired — made the situation worse,

  • February 2, 2014 at 7:46 am

    Kate – I think what Bella was describing were large groups of people changing their name, not one person on their own.

    Bella – another example which is almost like what you’re describing is the “childfree” group – they’re not using the childless tag, but the childFREE tag. It’s not strictly the same, but still similar.

    I wonder if “spinsterella” is a bit like the childfree tag. Sounds a bit nicer than ‘spinster’.

    And while we’re talking about ‘spinster’ ….. why don’t unmarried men have their own ‘name’ like women are “spinsters”?!!

  • February 5, 2014 at 12:47 pm

    Seems to be a serious insult doesn’t have the physical appearance of most
    people here in Brazil, the bad guys make songs referring to ‘cute is pussy’ etc.
    The people, not bother to think, the silent State, forswear culture and the
    exercise of intelligence, make jokes about who wants to learn and can see the
    sad reality we live in, I’m offended, humiliated and discriminated against, there
    is racism against whites, we are called pejoratively Whitey, Gecko, sour milk …
    it’s sad! if I try to talk they kicked, beat and threaten death, people could come together to create a nice atmosphere but the
    amount of melanin or eye color here is an offense :[

  • February 21, 2014 at 5:00 am

    When I was in my early 30s, I suffered a severe depression and was hospitalized and then had therapy as an out patient. My family reacted badly as I struggled to learn new coping skills. Coming from a very patriarchal family, my growing independence was apparently threatening to them and they treated me as though I was crazy. My therapist helped me to embrace the label “crazy Aunt Elaine”. I made it my own and felt the power to be who I chose to be. That was the real beginning of the end of my depression and a whole new direction in my very successful life.


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