5 thoughts on “Will Christina Leave Grey’s Anatomy Because Mer Turned into a Kid-Crazed Matrimaniac?

  • November 5, 2013 at 8:37 am

    Bella – thanks for writing this post! I too felt a pang of empathy for Christina as I watched that scene. (Perhaps the writers were evening the score with a karmic payback? Christina recently told Meredith she was losing her competitive edge as a doctor because she was too focused on her kids.)

    Single folks typically experience, at some point in their lives, what it’s like to be the only single person around families with kids and to have conversations and attention so kids-focused that singles feel invisible. Cheers to Grey’s for having a scene reflecting that!

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  • November 5, 2013 at 9:47 am

    I stopped my friendship because we didn’t have the same parenting views.

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  • November 5, 2013 at 11:15 am

    I feel abandoned every single time one of my friends gets married. When you develop a strong friendship with someone and then they find a ‘life partner’ that partner becomes their main confidant, their best friend, the person that they plan their entire life around. This becomes “their person”. Which means they need the bonding and support and social aspects of friendship less than they did before. Their need for friendship doesn’t go away completely, and will fluctuate over the years, but when someone finds a partner, it just lessens significantly because their partner is meeting more of the needs they used to depend on you for. The person’s priorities change, the places they will spend their money or their time change, their goals change, the things that are fun or entertaining to them change, and their life becomes more entwined with their partner in terms of financial and life goals. IF a kid comes along, forget it. YOu’ll hardly see them again. It is a just a shift in priorities. The married person doesn’t get it or see the change because all of their needs are being met, they not only still have your friendship, to whatever degree they need it, but now they also have a life partner. The single person left behind is the one left with a ‘friendship deficit’. When this happens, I find new friends to fill the deficit. And then the cycle continues, over and over again. It is exhausting and frustrating but just part of life. I think the change in Grey’s that you discuss above gives the show a lot of areas to explore. How even the closest of friendships changes because of marriage and family and how the person left behind is abandoned and has to go out and seek others to fill the deficit. How the things that seemd so important to your frienship, take a back seat to the priorities of family.

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  • November 9, 2013 at 8:03 am

    I find that if the friends in question have the attitude that everyone must marry to be normal,happy, healthy that when they partner up they either disappear or start to treat me badly, as if we aren’t equals anymore. (Unless the marriage is on the rocks, in which case these now-former friends suddenly remember what a good listener I am and assume that as an unmarried “loser” that I’l be all too fascinated by the details of their crumbling marriages.) If the friends who marry see marriage as an option and actually appreciate things about single life we can continue. In the second case I’ll listen to the problems; in the first case now I just say, “Oh, gosh. I really don’t have the expertise to talk about this with you.” 🙂

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  • March 20, 2018 at 1:04 pm

    I have watched the second season only after a few episodes of the thirs i stopped it because esecially american drama series are so repetitive, i said no thanks and that was it. (same with other shows like desperate housewives )

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