Archives for Singlehood
What happens to your friendships over the course of your life? Do you accumulate close friends over time or shed them? Does it matter if you are single or married? If you are a parent? If you are a parent but your kids have flown the coop?
It is the question that other people put to those of us who are single and living alone. Sometimes we ask it ourselves. What will happen to us if we need a lot of help for a long time?
What does home mean to you? Now that more people than ever before are living single, and fewer adults are raising children, “home” isn’t what it used to be. People are living in all sorts of innovative ways. Does that change the way they think about home or feel about it?
It is something almost everyone has fantasized about at one point or another: having a big sum of money land in your lap. What would you do if you won the lottery or inherited a nice sum of money? Do you think the answer to that question would depend on your gender and marital status?
I just read a love story – one that I thought was very special. (I didn’t know the book was going to be a love story when I started it.) I’m going to share some quotes from the two people in the relationship as...
When someone asks, “Isn’t that romantic?”, they are not really asking your opinion. They are commenting on the obvious, seemingly inherent romantic nature of whatever it is they are discussing. But where do our notions of romantic things come from? Are romantic things self-evidently romantic, as if it is part of their very nature? Or are our notions of what’s romantic shaped by our culture?
[Bella’s intro: When anthropologist M. J. Coreil shared with me her essay on snuggling with strangers, I was intrigued. Dr. Coreil makes a compelling case for the importance of distinguishing non-sexual touch from sexual touch, and she thinks that non-sexual touch, including touching with strangers, should not just be destigmatized, but widely practiced. She reminds us that massage therapy had to get past stigma and misunderstandings...
I have been reading obituaries and tributes and reflections since Mary Tyler Moore died on January 25, 2017. The love and admiration for the actress and her work is deep and heartfelt. She was recognized and celebrated for many of her roles, but none more than Mary Richards, the single woman who was an assistant TV news producer on the show “Mary Tyler Moore.”
Morning Edition on NPR gave big play to some new research. As summarized in the online transcript, “A study finds that single women are much less likely to express career ambitions compared to married women or men. Researchers believe they don’t want to undermine their appeal in the dating market.” (The research article appears to be in press but there is no indication of where it will be published. A working paper version is here.)
[Bella’s intro: Look at the prices for tickets, travel, memberships, and just about anything else you can think of, and chances are, couples are charged less per person than single people are. This disparity happens all the time, yet is rarely questioned. But it...