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Love & Affection

What Makes You Think Something Is Romantic?

 When someone asks, “Isn’t that romantic?”, they are not really asking your opinion. They are commenting on the obvious, seemingly inherent romantic nature of whatever it is they are discussing. But where do our notions of romantic things come from? Are romantic things self-evidently romantic, as if it is part of their very nature? Or are our notions of what’s romantic shaped by our culture?

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Cheryl Strayed, Wildly Successful Author, Shares Her Definition of Success

I recently gave a talk to a room full of seniors, mostly in their 70s and 80s, about how seniors really want to live, now that they have more choices in the matter than they ever had before. It was a very affirming talk, not one of those “oh no, you are old and you are going to be lonely” kinds of messages. I worked on it for days. I told my mother’s story –...
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Love & Affection

Snuggle Parties: Would You Cuddle with Strangers? Guest Post by M. J. Coreil

[Bella’s intro: When anthropologist M. J. Coreil shared with me her essay on snuggling with strangers, I was intrigued. Dr. Coreil makes a compelling case for the importance of distinguishing non-sexual touch from sexual touch, and she thinks that non-sexual touch, including touching with strangers, should not just be destigmatized, but widely practiced. She reminds us that massage therapy had to get past stigma and misunderstandings...
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Love & Affection

Mary Tyler Moore’s Character Had a Dignity Today’s Single Women Are Denied

I have been reading obituaries and tributes and reflections since Mary Tyler Moore died on January 25, 2017. The love and admiration for the actress and her work is deep and heartfelt. She was recognized and celebrated for many of her roles, but none more than Mary Richards, the single woman who was an assistant TV news producer on the show “Mary Tyler Moore.”

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Love & Affection

According to NPR, Brilliant Single Women Deny Their Ambitions to Get Dates

Morning Edition on NPR gave big play to some new research. As summarized in the online transcript, “A study finds that single women are much less likely to express career ambitions compared to married women or men. Researchers believe they don’t want to undermine their appeal in the dating market.” (The research article appears to be in press but there is no indication of where it will be published. A working paper version is here.)

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