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Love & Affection

If You Have High Self-Esteem, Are You More Likely to Stay Single than Start a Dubious Romantic Relationship?

What does self-esteem have to do with it? That was the question two social scientists asked about the topic of starting a romantic relationship. From their study of more than 9,000 people, who participated in the research for three years, the authors were able to figure out whether people who had higher self-esteem were more likely to start a new romantic relationship. (More details about the study, and the answers it provided to other questions about self-esteem and romantic relationships, are here.)

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Love & Affection

Mike Pence’s Embrace of the Billy Graham Rule Is Especially Unfair to Single Women

A Washington Post profile of Mike Pence’s wife, Karen, included lots of fascinating observations. But it was just this one sentence that inspired a tsunami of blog posts and opinion pieces:
“In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a woman other than his wife and that he won’t attend events featuring alcohol without her by his side, either.”
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How we live now

Why Friends Should Have Full Legal Rights as Co-Parents

In Canada, two friends who wanted to co-parent a child made history by winning a court case that awarded them the same legal rights as married parents. I described that case, and why friends should have such rights, in a column I wrote for Unmarried Equality. I’ve reprinted it at the end of this post, with permission from the organization.

First, though, I’d like to provide some context to the discussion of co-parenting by people who are not the child’s biological or adoptive parents....
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Love & Affection

8 Things Married People Get Wrong about Singles: Guest Post by Edie Jarolim

 [Bella’s intro: Over at the Huffington Post, a married woman got a lot of attention by speaking on behalf of single people. She told married people what she thought single people wanted them to know. Some of us single people were a bit baffled by the way the author presumed to speak for us – we didn’t see ourselves in her characterization. Edie Jarolim was more than baffled. She was incensed. I’m sharing her passionate...
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Love & Affection

Potential Romantic Partners: When Not Getting Involved Is the Best Gift You Can Give Them

When I talk about people who are single at heart – those who live their best, most authentic, most meaningful, and most fulfilling lives by living single – I usually emphasize the ways in which living single is best for them. But maybe the single-at-heart person is not the only person who benefits from staying single. Maybe the people they do not become involved with, romantically, benefit too.

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