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Love & Affection

What Makes You Think Something Is Romantic?

 When someone asks, “Isn’t that romantic?”, they are not really asking your opinion. They are commenting on the obvious, seemingly inherent romantic nature of whatever it is they are discussing. But where do our notions of romantic things come from? Are romantic things self-evidently romantic, as if it is part of their very nature? Or are our notions of what’s romantic shaped by our culture?

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Love & Affection

Mary Tyler Moore’s Character Had a Dignity Today’s Single Women Are Denied

I have been reading obituaries and tributes and reflections since Mary Tyler Moore died on January 25, 2017. The love and admiration for the actress and her work is deep and heartfelt. She was recognized and celebrated for many of her roles, but none more than Mary Richards, the single woman who was an assistant TV news producer on the show “Mary Tyler Moore.”

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Love & Affection

According to NPR, Brilliant Single Women Deny Their Ambitions to Get Dates

Morning Edition on NPR gave big play to some new research. As summarized in the online transcript, “A study finds that single women are much less likely to express career ambitions compared to married women or men. Researchers believe they don’t want to undermine their appeal in the dating market.” (The research article appears to be in press but there is no indication of where it will be published. A working paper version is here.)

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Beyond ‘Are You Seeing Anyone?’: Questions that Honor the Real Lives of Real Single People

Some of the world’s most scintillating conversationalists come totally undone when their conversation partner is a single person. All they can seem to come up with is, “So, are you seeing anyone?”

Americans spend more years of their adult lives not married than married, and there are more single people than ever before. Yet remarkably, other people often assume that what single people want, more than anything else, is to become unsingle. It is as if they think that single people have no...
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