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The Single at Heart Blog Is So Grateful for Its First 9 Years Here

Maybe you heard the news today that Psych Central, brainchild of Dr. John Grohol, will now be in the hands of Healthline. Dr. Grohol has been devoted to this site for the past quarter century and has built it into something wonderful.

In October of 2011, Dr. Grohol invited me to write this Single at Heart blog for Psych Central. It was such a thrill and an honor to be asked. I’ve written two blog posts a week, occasionally more than that, ever since. That’s close to 2,000 blog posts.

As is true of all of my writings about single life, I talk about every aspect of single life except dating or other attempts to escape being single. I like to celebrate single people who live their single lives fully, joyfully, and unapologetically. I’m a social scientist, so I also like to back my claims with evidence.

A great perk of writing the Single at Heart blog is that I have had the opportunity to publish guest posts from a wide variety of other people. We single people are quite diverse, and my own experience is limited. I’ve loved amplifying other voices.

I don’t know for sure what the future of this Single at Heart blog will be with Healthline. I sure hope it continues, and in much the same way as it always has! You may have seen a lot of posts from me today. I had them saved up for the rest of the month, but I just published them all now in case things are in flux for the next few weeks.

I also don’t know when the transition will take place or what Psych Central will look like in the interim. But you can still find lots to read about single life, from an affirming and often research-based perspective. I have been organizing my writings from this blog and elsewhere into a collection of topics about single life. The link to the entire collection is here. Below are all the different topics you will find at that page.

Thank you to everyone who has been reading the Single at Heart blog for the past nine years. I have greatly appreciated your interest and your thoughtful and gracious comments. I hope this is the start of the next chapter of this blog and not the end of anything.

Myth-Busting about Single Life

HAPPINESS On getting married and (not) getting happier: What we know

PHYSICAL HEALTH and MENTAL HEALTH Getting married and (not) getting healthy

LONGEVITY Debunking the myth that married people live longer

RELATIONSHIPSATTACHMENTCAREGIVINGVOLUNTEERING Single people are caring, connected, attached, and unselfish

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES Single parents and their children: Don’t believe the prophesies of doom

NO CHILDREN Adults with no kids: Naming, shaming, and talking back to the shaming

SEX Getting married and (not) getting sex (and other sex-relevant topics)

MONEY Getting married and getting more money (and other articles about the economics of single life)

COLLECTION OF CRITIQUES What’s wrong with studies and claims about the supposed benefits of marriage?

Other Topics

How we live now

21 century living arrangements

Living alone

The best of single life

Single at heart

The real reasons for living single



The Community of Single People

The benefits of being single — for single people and for society

Some basics about single life

Demographics (number of singles, age when people marry, rates of divorce and remarriage, etc., and what it all means)

Defining single and naming different categories of singles

Personalities and types of single people

Gender differences (in living single, marrying, divorcing, remarrying, bereavement, living alone, and living apart together)

Single men (separate category because so much writing about singles is about single women)

Lifelong single people

Older single people

Divorce, widowhood, remarriage

Singlism and matrimania, and why we need advocacy for single people

Singlism and matrimania

People deny singlism exists and get mad at you for pointing it out. Why?

Singles advocacy and the issue of privilege

How singles are celebrated and stereotyped and shamed

Singles in different domains and different places

The workplace

Research and teaching

Religions and places of worship

Advertising, marketing, and business


Health care and illness

Psychotherapy and mental health

Housing (buying homes, housing discrimination, living arrangements)

The military and foreign service

Popular culture and beyond (TV, movies, magazines, literature, the arts, opera, etc.)

Celebrities, world figures, and people in politics and the media

Singles around the world

We need to rethink these matters

Relationships, family, and love

Living single during a pandemic

Holidays  (including single people’s celebrations of the milestones in their lives)



Sex, sexuality, and monogamy

Marriage (including marrying yourself)

Resources: Books, talks, discussion groups, advocacy groups and more

Books about single life: Reviews and discussions

Blogs about single people and single life

Best TED talks and other talks for single people

Scholars of single life

Lots of RESOURCES: Books, blogs, videos, podcasts, discussion groups, advocacy groups, academic writings, and more 

Totally off-topic

Here’s what I know about lying and detecting lies

The Single at Heart Blog Is So Grateful for Its First 9 Years Here

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D

Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard; Academic Affiliate, Psychological and Brain Sciences, UC Santa Barbara), an expert on single life, is the author of several books, including "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After" and "How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century." Her TEDx talk is "What no one ever told you about people who are single." Dr. DePaulo has discussed singles and single life on radio and television, including NPR and CNN, and her work has been described in newspapers such as the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, and USA Today, and magazines such as Time, Atlantic, the Week, More, the Nation, Business Week, AARP Magazine, and Newsweek. Dr. DePaulo is in her sixties. She has always been single and always will be. She is "single at heart" -- single is how she lives her best and most meaningful life. Visit her website at

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DePaulo, B. (2020). The Single at Heart Blog Is So Grateful for Its First 9 Years Here. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 29, 2020, from


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