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What to Expect from Your Adopted Child: Insights from Behavioral Genetics

When I was teaching at the University of Virginia, my colleagues included some of the most eminent researchers in the field of behavioral genetics. Their work was respected and admired. I didn’t realize that someone writing about that topic could be put on the defensive for doing so until Kay Trimberger told me about her experiences. Professor Trimberger is the author of Creole Son: An Adoptive Mother Untangles Nature and Nurture, the book she and I have been discussing here and here. She drew extensively from behavioral genetics in writing Creole Son and learned a lot in the process. Here she tells us why she found those studies useful.

Kay Trimberger: Behavioral Genetics was founded as an interdisciplinary field in the 1970s to separate itself from any connection with genetic determinism or with eugenics. (Eugenics aspired to improve humanity through selective breeding which led to racist and anti-Semitic policies.) The founders of behavioral genetics were mainly quantitative psychologists with no training in genetic science. That may be changing now.  They did not study group difference like race or ethnicity, and rarely gender. Rather, they looked only at differences in individual development and looked at both genetic and environmental forces and how they interact. They considered the environment both inside and outside the family.

What was most important to me was that they used adoptive families for their studies, comparing siblings (both adoptive and biological) within the same family and comparing  families formed by adoption to biological families of the same ethnicity and social class background (called a control group).  Twins separated through adoption were part of these studies done at universities in Minnesota, Colorado, Texas, Pennsylvania, Oregon and others.

These were ethical studies, not like the secret studies described in the documentary Three Identical Strangers. All participants in behavioral genetics studies were volunteers and many stayed in the studies for 20 – 30 years. As they became teenagers and adults, the adoptees were given yearly reports on the findings. In Creole Son, I use specific studies which were relevant to issues we faced, and I integrate their findings with my experience.

For these researchers, adoption was a way to separate the impact of nature and nurture and to understand more about individual development over time. Until recently, they were not interested in adoption theory or practice. The main criticism of these studies focuses on the admitted fact that they find correlations, not causes, and some correlations are not very strong.  A second major question raised about these studies is whether you can generalize from adopted families to the whole population. Here, I didn’t care, because I was only interested in what I could learn about adoption, especially my own; I wanted to create a model which those involved in adoption could use for personal understanding.

My favorite study is one that was done at the University of Colorado Adoption Project which started in the 1970s and continued for more than twenty years. Using thirteen tests of cognitive abilities, the researchers picked 245 adoptees given up at (or near) birth. They gave these tests to the birth mothers and adoptive parents, along with a control group of biological families. As the adoptees were growing up, they tested them at various ages and when they were sixteen, the adoptees, adoptive parents and control group were given the same tests as their birth mothers had been given at about the same age.

The results were counterintuitive. The adoptees only had similarities with the adoptive parents in the first four years. By age sixteen, the adoptees had no similarities to the adoptive parents, but had developed moderate resemblance to the birth mothers, comparable to that of children who grew up in a biological family.  The researchers concluded that environmental transmission from parents to offspring had little effect on later cognitive ability. A Texas study found a similar pattern in psychological characteristics, but the correlation was not as high.

This study gave me some insight into why the young boy with whom I felt so close and in tune with deviated from me as a teenager and beyond, making choices that were so different from mine. These findings mean that adoption educators should counsel parents to expect these differences.  Many biological parents have the same experience, but it is more prevalent in adoptive families. One can still love a child and appreciate some of such differences, many of which may be positive, but adoptive parents cannot assume that the child will make choices or have personal characteristics like others in their family.

About the Author

Kay Trimberger is a professor emerita of women’s and gender studies at Sonoma State University and an affiliated scholar at the Institute for the Study of Social Issues at the University of California, Berkeley. She is the author of The New Single Woman, among other books, and she also blogs about adoption.

What to Expect from Your Adopted Child: Insights from Behavioral Genetics

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D

Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard; Academic Affiliate, Psychological and Brain Sciences, UC Santa Barbara), an expert on single life, is the author of several books, including "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After" and "How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century." Her TEDx talk is "What no one ever told you about people who are single." Dr. DePaulo has discussed singles and single life on radio and television, including NPR and CNN, and her work has been described in newspapers such as the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, and USA Today, and magazines such as Time, Atlantic, the Week, More, the Nation, Business Week, AARP Magazine, and Newsweek. Dr. DePaulo is in her sixties. She has always been single and always will be. She is "single at heart" -- single is how she lives her best and most meaningful life. Visit her website at

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DePaulo, B. (2020). What to Expect from Your Adopted Child: Insights from Behavioral Genetics. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 22, 2020, from


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