Questions about Single Life? Here Are Scientifically-Grounded Answers that Will Make Single People Proud
What do you want to know about single people or single life? Although what we know about singlehood lags far behind what is known about marriage, we know a lot more now than we did a few decades ago.
A few years ago, I started organizing my own writings, and those of some of the people who have written guest posts for my blogs, by topic so that readers could find what interests them fairly easily. You may have seen that collection of writings about single life previously. In the past few days, I’ve been updating it, adding new topics and many new articles to the collection.
The outline of the newly updated collection is at the bottom of this article. When you go to the collection, you can click on any of the topics that interest you.
Do you want to know what to believe about all those claims that getting married makes people happier or healthier or adds years to their lives? (Hint: Don’t believe them!) You will find lots of writings about those issues in the first section.
Do you want to know about the different ways that single people are living? That’s in the second section.
What is it that draws people to single life? When people embrace single life, what do they find so fulfilling? The section, “The best of single life,” addresses that.
The next section is about the basics. Just how many single people are there? What does “single” mean? Most of the research and writings on single life are about single women, but what do we know about single men? What about lifelong single people? Older single people? People who were once married but are now divorced or widowed?
Since you are reading this, you probably already know about singlism, the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single. A section on “Singles advocacy and why we need it” gathers some writings about what we need to do. It also includes discussions of how single people have been stereotyped and shamed – as well as articles on how single people have sometimes been celebrated.
In every major arena of our lives, there are issues around people who are single. Those issues are discussed in writings about the place of single people in the workplace, the educational system, the medical establishment, politics, religion, the military, business, advertising, and popular culture.
The last section is called “We need to rethink these matters.” Think about what you might expect to read elsewhere about topics such as relationships, family, love, holidays, pets, loneliness, and marriage. In the relevant writings in that last section, you will not find the conventional wisdom. So if you like thinking about things in ways that are different from how most other people think, you may enjoy those writings.
Click HERE to find the articles on all the topics listed below, or click the links to specific topics that are right here on this page.
Myth-Busting about Single Life
PHYSICAL HEALTH and MENTAL HEALTH Getting married and (not) getting healthy
RELATIONSHIPS, ATTACHMENT, CAREGIVING, VOLUNTEERING Single people are caring, connected, attached, and unselfish
SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES Single parents and their children: Don’t believe the prophesies of doom
SEX Getting married and (not) getting sex (and other sex-relevant topics)
MONEY Getting married and getting more money (and other articles about the economics of single life)
How we live now
The best of single life
Some basics about single life
Demographics (number of singles, age when people marry, rates of divorce and remarriage, etc.)
Single men (separate category because so much writing about singles is about single women)
Singles advocacy and why we need it
Singles in different domains and different places
Popular culture (TV, movies, books, and magazines)
We need to rethink these matters
DePaulo, B. (2017). Questions about Single Life? Here Are Scientifically-Grounded Answers that Will Make Single People Proud. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 24, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/single-at-heart/2017/04/questions-about-single-life-here-are-scientifically-grounded-answers-that-will-make-single-people-proud/