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The Mexican Revolution in Attitudes toward Single People

hispaniccrpdWhat, in Mexico, was long considered the worst possible fate for a woman? According to a Mexican magazine article, if you said staying single, you win. Now, happily, the singles are winning, as attitudes are changing there in ways that may well qualify as revolutionary.

I don’t know this first-hand. A few months ago, I was interviewed for Fernanda magazine, the Mexican equivalent of Oprah’s magazine. The February 2013 issue featured the story by Guadalupe Flores, “Disfruta tu Solterania” – “Enjoy Your Singehood.” Take that, old guard!

I have a wonderful friend who offered to read the story and tell me what it said. (She has a PhD in Spanish; she wishes to remain anonymous.) She said that the article puts the whole trend toward living single in an international context. All over the world, people are marrying later, or staying single for life. That, I already knew. Here’s something I didn’t know: Spain celebrates “Singles Day” on February 13.

My friend’s summary of the article also includes this:

“In Mexico and other countries, more and more women are pursuing professional goals. Marriage is not an all-consuming desire for these people. These women achieve economic independence and happiness in their single state.”

The article also includes a discussion of my work on singlism. It urges everyone to fight discrimination against singles.

Makes me wish I knew Spanish!

This post is one in a series of articles I have been writing about the place of singles in various countries around the world. In most instances, the new trends are hopeful ones. Here are my previous posts on the topic:

In Ireland, taking single life seriously

Single in Iran

Single in Nigeria

How to shame single women: Chinese edition

Single women in India: A conversation with Kay Trimberger

If you have first-hand knowledge of the place of singles in Mexico (or anywhere else, for that matter), please share that with us in the comments section.

Hispanic woman photo available from Shutterstock

The Mexican Revolution in Attitudes toward Single People

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D

Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard; Academic Affiliate, Psychological and Brain Sciences, UC Santa Barbara), an expert on single life, is the author of several books, including "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After" and "How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century." Her TEDx talk is "What no one ever told you about people who are single," Dr. DePaulo has discussed singles and single life on radio and television, including NPR and CNN, and her work has been described in newspapers such as the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, and USA Today, and magazines such as Time, Atlantic, the Week, More, the Nation, Business Week, AARP Magazine, and Newsweek. Dr. DePaulo is in her sixties. She has always been single and always will be. She is "single at heart" -- single is how she lives her best and most meaningful life. Visit her website at

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DePaulo, B. (2018). The Mexican Revolution in Attitudes toward Single People. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 24, 2019, from


Last updated: 15 Jul 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 Jul 2018
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