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Archives for November, 2012

Marriage

World’s Worst Reaction to War-on-Men Story

Maybe you have already heard about the essay, “The war on men,” that has kicked up a firestorm. I did not jump in right away on this. The essay, by Suzanne Venker, is just another variation of the “evil feminists” theme, articulated so ridiculously that it is a caricature of itself. I’ll share a few choice passages so you can judge for yourself. (You can also partake of Stephen...
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Love & Affection

Alone for the Holidays – the Issue Everyone Wants to Discuss

Just before Thanksgiving, NPR posted a question on its website asking people to weigh in about spending holidays alone. Are they doing so themselves and why?

NPR got a flood of answers. From my perch as a practitioner and scholar of single life, what I found most intriguing was the range of responses. My guess is that if NPR had posed this question three or four decades ago, the...
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Marriage

Myth-Busting for Matrimaniacs, Daily Show Style

I’m a social scientist and an author. I like to explain things with numbers and words. In some ways, though, my Explainer-in-Chief hero is Jon Stewart. To me, there is nothing quite like great humor – especially Daily Show style – to make a point in a way that sticks. At its best, humor knocks down your defenses and leaves you on the floor laughing before you can muster any personal outrage or...
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General

Rush Limbaugh and the Single Woman Voter

I’m very attuned to the often-subtle ways that people stereotype and marginalize single people in their everyday behaviors and conversations. Many times, the people who practice this singlism do not even realize that there is anything wrong with their prejudicial behavior – or even that it is prejudicial. That’s why we need consciousness-raising.

Sometimes, what people say about single people is so crude, and so over-the-top, that it...
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Marriage

How 150 Million Americans Were Wiped Off the Map in 2012

“You don’t count.” It is something that is rarely said out loud. People who think that of other groups of people typically do not admit it.

The history of social movements is one of marginalized groups fighting back and insisting that they cannot be relegated to the sidelines anymore. One way we can tell that a social justice movement by and for a particular group has succeeded, at least in...
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General

Can You Make Friends Online?

Remember when people interested in dating were ashamed to admit that they looked for partners online? It was seen as a sign of desperation and loser-dom to try to connect with strangers online. Can’t you meet real people face-to-face? Sure, maybe other people would “set you up,” but they would know the people they were recommending to you as matches.

Now, meeting potential romantic partners online is ordinary. But what if you...
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