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Love & Affection

How Did the Hook-Up Story End?

What about sex? That’s the question that often pops up when people sit back and contemplate the growing demographic and social trends.

For decades, the number and percentage of people who are single has been growing. In part, that’s because people who marry no longer get around to it in their early adult years. The most recent data on the median age at which people first marry showed record highs -- for men...
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General

Matrimaniacal Halloween Costumes Are Peddled to Girls, But Not Boys

I suppose some kids still have parents who ask their kids what they want to be for Halloween and then make those costumes themselves. It is probably much more commonplace, though, for Halloweeners and their parents to search the store aisles for ready-made outfits. That means that the costumes worn on Halloween are in no small measure determined by what the stores are offering.

In 2000, Adie Nelson published a paper based...
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Love & Affection

Covenant Marriage: How Is It Different from Garden Variety Marriage?

The rate of divorce is no longer increasing in the United States (except among those who are 65 and older) but the rate is still high enough to maintain a sense of panic among some observers. Many solutions have been proposed for strengthening marriage. In one of them, couples commit to a more demanding form of marriage called “covenant marriage.”

Covenant marriages are available in Louisiana, Arkansas, and Arizona. Couples who sign onto covenant...
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Love & Affection

The Marriage Plot Gets Infiltrated by Some Savvy Singles

Jeffrey Eugenides’ Pulitzer-Prize-winning novel, The Marriage Plot, is not a book I intended to read. The story of a college grad torn between two lovers seemed too likely to be matrimaniacal. But then a friend passed along her copy, and well, it did win the Pulitzer Prize, so I figured I’d at least start it. (Spoiler alert: I’m going to reveal the ending.)

Madeleine is an English major who is...
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Love & Affection

Single in Nigeria

Single women in Nigeria are uniting! They have their own movement. Unfortunately, what they are agitating for are husbands.

I first learned about this from The Week, which publishes excerpts and summaries from editorials around the world. The brief piece about the Nigerian editorial began like this:
“The ‘spinsters of Kano’ are on the prowl, said the Abuja Leadership. The ancient city, the second largest in Nigeria, has more than 1 million unmarried...
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Love & Affection

Why Would a Gay Person Oppose Same-Sex Marriage?

In the debate over same-sex marriage, there are two opposing perspectives. Advocates of same-sex marriage claim that access to marriage is a matter of fairness, and a civil right; it brings social acceptance as well as more than 1000 federal perks and privileges not available to people who are not married. Opponents point to religious considerations as well as their beliefs about the importance of children having both a...
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Love & Affection

The Psychology of Feeling Badly about Not Having Children

I never had children and that has never been an issue for me. I enjoy seeing my friends’ kids and adore my niece and nephews, but never wanted children of my own. But others I know feel pained about not having children. So what’s the difference? Is it just that some people want kids and others don’t? Or are social pressures – say, from parents or a partner – important, too?

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